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A few weeks ago I added a new pic to a few of my online profiles. It was something I thought was pretty fun. I am laughing with a friend. Who knows what were were laughing at, but someone grabbed a pic mid-laugh. The only thing of note about this pic is that I have some cleavage in my v-neck dress. I didn’t really notice until later, and it looks like more due to the angle of the shot. I have other pics in the same dress, and they do not look so cleavage-y.
The funny thing is, after I put up this pic, the messages I got started changing pretty drastically. Typically I got messages like “hi, your profile is interesting.” Now I stared getting blatant messages with direct requests for hookups, offers of massages or comments on my shape (and occasionally cleavage). I didn’t make any changes to my profile, but apparently I am perceived much differently now. It is so crazy!
Fess up, have you noticed a difference in response based on your pic choices?
Hmm. Not really. I've never posted suggestive or even slightly revealing photos on my profiles. I mean, certain photos have often attracted more attention, photos where I expose more of my body art, but other than that, I rarely received eye roll-inducing messages.
Here and there I'd get comments on my lips, but more often than not they're tasteful compliments.
Now that I'm getting older, my cleavage doesnt have the same pop. 10 years ago my pecs were much bigger and more defined. Problem is, even back then, with chest hair my cleavage wasnt as impressive as it could have been.
Oddly, even though I've gained a lil weight since then, it still isnt in the right places.
Now-a-days, if I posted a pic of me in a tank top, it would look borderline trashy/creepy.
And then, even yet still, I never did get that one great body shot of myself back then, so I couldnt even fake it and put up an old photo if I wanted.
In my world, selfies weren't common, so the whole concept was over my head.
Is it just me, or are selfies a newer concept ? I don't remember people taking selfies 15 years ago. But who knows
Selfies have been around a long time, but it's only now with all the online networking that they've become a phenom. Selfie groups pix with friends used to be just for someone's personal photo collection.
I think this is a great example of the limitations of online dating. You can be mislead so easily, either intentionally or unintentionally. Meeting someone by means of the internet is only the first step - there is no substitute for a face to face meeting. How people speak, tone, body language are so very important in what we find attractive in a person that falling in love strictly on line seems impossible.
I once chatted with a person for a serious length of time and really thought I was attracted to him from our conversations. That all changed when we spoke on the phone...his voice and inflection really changed my perception of him.
OP, I'm opting for the possibility that it was the combo of your laughing, plus the slight cleavage. Maybe to some guys it looked like you were a Good-Time Girl. If your other photos show a more sedate smile and you're more covered up, the difference in response could have been due to the overall contrast between the new pic and the others.
OP, I'm opting for the possibility that it was the combo of your laughing, plus the slight cleavage. Maybe to some guys it looked like you were a Good-Time Girl. If your other photos show a more sedate smile and you're more covered up, the difference in response could have been due to the overall contrast between the new pic and the others.
I agree. A man might notice your joie-de-vivre OR your cleavage OR some other visual clue that you are a good catch, but we all know it won't happen if you arent compatible.
I say, Use what you've got to hook 'em, be yourself to reel 'em in!
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