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My guy is very gentlemanly towards me... almost old fashion. I really enjoy it too. Of course, in return I am very ladylike towards him. It kind of goes hand-in-hand in my opinion--you know, each going out of our way to be nice to each other and make the other feel special.
My guy is very gentlemanly towards me... almost old fashion. I really enjoy it too. Of course, in return I am very ladylike towards him. It kind of goes hand-in-hand in my opinion--you know, each going out of our way to be nice to each other and make the other feel special.
Exactly. Maybe it's just because I'm older, but do young women today REALLY like being treated just like another dude?
I see the way guys treat each other and I'll take old-school over that ANY DAY!
My guy is very gentlemanly towards me... almost old fashion. I really enjoy it too. Of course, in return I am very ladylike towards him. It kind of goes hand-in-hand in my opinion--you know, each going out of our way to be nice to each other and make the other feel special.
There's the rub. A lot of the chivalrous-type behavior that people complain about is pretty arbitrary and unnecessary in this modern world, but at the same time I certainly wouldn't want to be with a guy who didn't want to be nice to me and make me feel special. And I want him to feel special, too.
There's the rub. A lot of the chivalrous-type behavior that people complain about is pretty arbitrary and unnecessary in this modern world, but at the same time I certainly wouldn't want to be with a guy who didn't want to be nice to me and make me feel special. And I want him to feel special, too.
Well, to be honest, traditional chivalrous behavior has always really been "unnecessary" but I still love that there are men (as rare as it may be) that do it assuming it's genuine.
I'm a woman, not a man. I want to be treated with respect, but I also want to be treated differently and not like "one of the guys".
Well, to be honest, traditional chivalrous behavior has always really been "unnecessary" but I still love that there are men (as rare as it may be) that do it assuming it's genuine.
Agreed, although I'd feel really bad if a man took of his jacket off to lay it across a puddle for me to walk across. haha
I'm not going to bother re-typing that. +1, grump. That's exactly how I am, on all counts(meh...except car doors, sometimes.)
I don't do any of it for brownie points, I do it because I see it as the right thing to do. I practically don't even think about it, I just do it. It's natural.
I do always chuckle to myself though, that I always, at some point in a relationship, get a comment that they thought it would go away after some months, but it never does. Just the way I am.
You are one of very few men like this mags, I'm glad there are still some gentlemen out there.
Do you enjoy giving/receiving gentlemanly behavior? Do you expect it? What behaviors would you describe as a man acting like a gentleman towards a woman?
And for the men, especially, do you find yourself exhibiting this behavior when first trying to impress a woman but then sorta slacking off as the relationship grows?
I want to be treated with respect and I treat others with respect. I don't need, and it would **** me off, to be treated like a helpless hot house flower simply because of my gender.
The guys that show over the top 'gentlemanly' behavior are almost always closet creeps and control-freaks...so if someone insists on acting that way, sets off warning bells.
Agreed, although I'd feel really bad if a man took of his jacket off to lay it across a puddle for me to walk across. haha
Funny you should say that. I remember my daughter telling me when she and her bf would be out he always would make it a point to stand beside her closest to where the street is. She finally asked him why and he said "It's just good behavior for a man to stand on the outside of the sidewalk so that if a car comes by and splashes it gets on him instead of the woman".
She said she smiled, hugged and kissed him! You really don't see men putting that much thought into that kind of stuff anymore. But having talked with men, lots of guys DO genuinely respect women and having grown up with more traditional behavior ingrained in them have a difficult time figuring out just HOW to treat a woman. Is he supposed to treat her more traditionally, or JUST like another dude?
Her bf told me that it's just a part of him and if a woman seemed to be offended by it he'd decide not to date her, but then he met my daughter and says how much he loves how traditional and lady-like she is. I really hope this man becomes my SIL one day!
I want to be treated with respect and I treat others with respect. I don't need, and it would **** me off, to be treated like a helpless hot house flower simply because of my gender.
The guys that show over the top 'gentlemanly' behavior are almost always closet creeps and control-freaks...so if someone insists on acting that way, sets off warning bells.
Attitudes such as yours really do hurt good men. I certainly hope you aren't one of those "where are all the good guys?" types.
You do realize there are men that do it just because they think it's what a woman wants but is indeed how you describe and those such as my daughters bf that do it because they do respect them and view them as equals right? When I read stuff like this my heart sinks for humanity. It truly amazes me how good men so often get "punished" for just wanting to treat a woman like a lady and then men get flack for not being respectful/courteous enough. Sheesh, men are damned if they do, damned if they don't. I'm glad I'm not a young man living in today's world.
EDIT: Also, if I had a son you bet your bottom dollar I'd teach him to treat a woman in the same manners you seem to hate so much. I'd certainly feel bad for him looking for a good woman out in the dating world.
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You really don't see men putting that much thought into that kind of stuff anymore. But having talked with men, lots of guys DO genuinely respect women and having grown up with more traditional behavior ingrained in them have a difficult time figuring out just HOW to treat a woman. Is he supposed to treat her more traditionally, or JUST like another dude? 
It truly amazes me how good men so often get "punished" for just wanting to treat a woman like a lady and then men get flack for not being respectful/courteous enough. Sheesh, men are damned if they do, damned if they don't. I'm glad I'm not a young man living in today's world.
