Weight gain

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Originally Posted by stan4

I wouldn't get with my SIL.

Why not? She is smoking hot, a triathlete, and generally eats well. She has lots of money and is an executive in a big firm. Why not?

Because she is an alcoholic.

Whatever the bad behavior, move on, op.
You can't want something for someone else.

Right, you wouldn't start something with someone dedicated to a harmful lifestyle. But for some it starts after the relationship has already begun. Alcoholism is a perfect example. It has destroyed a lot of marriages, but some marriages have survived because someone loved his/her SO enough to stick with them through it. So I think that's worth considering.

FWIW I think OP probably should break up with his girlfriend. Even if I think it's shallow, if he is no longer attracted, what can you do? It's not fair to either of them to continue to force it to work, so why bother? But the weight gain is only part of it. OP gave a few other reasons on another thread, and it whole picture doesn't look pretty. They are not on the same page with a lot of their goals, OP is clearly not ready to be married, she wants to be, she has issues that trouble him, he still seems easily influenced by his parents, etc...

All around I think this boat is going to sink at the pier. Too many little holes to patch up.

[stan4]

Naw.
I wouldn't stay with someone who chose to destroy their lives and care more about that than the family they have made.

That is the pure definition of enabling.

[udolipixie]

Originally Posted by Wry_Martini

I'm curious - the folks who've said that their SO gaining weight would be a major turn-off and deal breaker... what would you do if your partner gained weight due to a medically necessary medication?

My answer is still the same- leave him. Again I see no reason to stick with a guy especially in matters of my attraction when seemingly most would leave/cheat the second they aren't getting as much sex as they want.