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What I would change: Fewer guys a generation older or younger than me. Fewer guys with obvious mental health issues. More guys my age who have their lives reasonably together. More women and people of other genders -- my age and together .
Seriously.... I never get hit on either. Not when I was 18, not now at 30.
Well, I've gotten those rude, obnoxious yells out a car window when walking in a downtown area, but nothing close to flirting.
You ladies aren't missing anything special. And TIW, obviously you are doing just fine with a great hubby and family so you've got it going on in looks and where it counts most.
You ladies aren't missing anything special. And TIW, obviously you are doing just fine with a great hubby and family so you've got it going on in looks and where it counts most.
Don't misunderstand my posts...I'm very grateful for my wonderful husband and family. I wouldn't trade it for the world, but I'm not gonna' lie...it does feel good when a man makes it clear that he finds me attractive. Others may not get an ego boost from it, but I sure do. Perhaps because it doesn't happen often to me.
You ladies aren't missing anything special. And TIW, obviously you are doing just fine with a great hubby and family so you've got it going on in looks and where it counts most.
That's what I was going to say. With me it's "always" been much older men that hit on me. We are talking 20, 30, 40 years older. I rather just be invisible to them because I am not interested and they can be persistent. It was worse when I was a shy teenaged girl who didn't know how to handle herself or get rid of these men. I almost think there is a certain type of man who preys upon that innocence and naivety. Maybe not all, but there certainly seemed to be from my perspective.
Online dating sites I sometimes get men 10 or so years my junior to me asking for a hookup--but I suspect they are they type to ask any woman for a hookup until they hit paydirt. I really don't count that as "being hit on." To me, being hit on is being singled out... like by a snipers bullet. These guys take the shotgun approach--don't aim and don't care what they hit (metaphorically and literally speaking).
Not to denigrate the lovely attractive ladies of CD , but I find that a lot of guys have a "shotgun" method of dealing with women. They play the numbers game.
You throw the line out in the water enough, you'll come up with fish.
So I don't know how much stock women should put into men hitting on them. This is certainly something I would instill in my daughters, if I had any.
Not to denigrate the lovely attractive ladies of CD , but I find that a lot of guys have a "shotgun" method of dealing with women. They play the numbers game.
You throw the line out in the water enough, you'll come up with fish.
So I don't know how much stock women should put into men hitting on them. This is certainly something I would instill in my daughters, if I had any.
I have told that to a few young women in the past. I certainly place no stock in these types of passes, there's certainly nothing more special about me than the next person that will come across those guy's path. How I wish I had an mp player some 40 years ago up to present. I'm sure that dandy device would have saved me from lots of terrible confrontations and headaches.
To be fair, not every instance falls into this ^ there are some times when there is genuine polite conversation and interest. So, ladies don't start giving all guys that try to converse with you in a, respectful way, attitude, I was commenting to the randomness in many of those fly by passes. I'm just an old ornery gal that doesn't want to be bothered.
What I would change: Fewer guys a generation older or younger than me. Fewer guys with obvious mental health issues. More guys my age who have their lives reasonably together. .
Same here! I thought I am the only one who makes this experience. 90% of the guys who approach me are totally and far away from my league/age.
I wonder why these - clearly unstable and undateable guys for whatever reason - are more likely to approach women (out of their league)? Do they WANT to get rejected??
Every guy I have ever been with, I have approached him. And later on he told me he would have never dared talking to me.
Same here! I thought I am the only one who makes this experience. 90% of the guys who approach me are totally and far away from my league/age.
I wonder why these - clearly unstable and undateable guys for whatever reason - are more likely to approach women (out of their league)? Do they WANT to get rejected??
Every guy I have ever been with, I have approached him. And later on he told me he would have never dared talking to me.
They've just got "nothing left to lose" as Janis Joplin would say.....
I know in my experience in hanging out with dudes, the guys that were always the most agressive were the ones that just didn't "give a ****" and that attitude seemed to come from the guys that were a litttle bit off... again, not all of course, but just a casual observation I've noticed.
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