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So, I have a dilemma. I'm pretty low in the self-confidence area, but a girl from my work, I believe, has been giving me signs of interest. A few times I look and see that's she made eye-contact with me, and on two occasions she's seen me go into the vending machine room, and went in herself. I know I should've started a conversation in there, but I freaked, and my mind went blank. :/ She even said hi, but my throat literally went dry and I didn't say anything. So now she probably thinks I'm not interested or a jerk.
I've always had social anxiety and I'm not very experienced with relationships, at all. My question, would it be too creepy to cold message her on FB and just say "hey" and see if I get a response?
Some details worth mentioning: Even though she works at the same location, she's not in the same department. I really can't spark up a convo with her without it being obvious what I'm doing. So, I'm kind of stuck on what I should do.
A guy from another department at work did this. He messaged me on facebook, asking me out. He only worked one floor down from me, and yet didn't take the time to come to my office and ask me out directly, or even meet me face to face before asking me out! Apparently he just saw me around work and thought I was "hot".
I didn't accept the offer.
Anyway, I would say if you're going to ask her out you should approach her first, but I'm never a fan of dating at work. Too much potential for problems.
But in general men who lack confidence and don't get attention from women probably can't be successful playing the game that way.
My suggestion would be to calm down, go talk to her, and at the least use her for practice. Being nervous around women is so bad. You'll never get anywhere with women if you're shy around them.
Lets say you take the Facebook approach and next day she decides to talk. If your throat is going to seize up like a clogged drain whenever you have to speak in person how do you expect to get anywhere?
Just say hello. Then introduce yourself, "hi, Vic Ferrari, I'm into Italian cars, technics stereos, Australian films and beautiful ladies" works like a charm.
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