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Old 07-08-2014, 03:37 PM
 
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You are correct, and yet you aren't.

Having a great relationship can be immensely fulfilling. Some people crave that fulfillment in life, and want to share their lives with someone else. There is nothing wrong with that, and it doesn't mean that they are trying to find a crutch to solve problems.

On the other hand, people who aren't healthy enough for a relationship shouldn't rely on a man/woman to fulfill them, so in that respect, you are correct.
That is what I was talking about.

I have no doubt in my mind a good relationship can add to someone's happiness. I have my own personal experience with allowing myself to rely on others for happiness and it did not end well. I believe relationships are suppose to be the icing and not the whole cake itself.

It's human nature to want to bond and experience love.
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Old 07-08-2014, 03:57 PM
 
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That is what I was talking about.

I have no doubt in my mind a good relationship can add to someone's happiness. I have my own personal experience with allowing myself to rely on others for happiness and it did not end well. I believe relationships are suppose to be the icing and not the whole cake itself.

It's human nature to want to bond and experience love.
Excellent analogy! I like that.
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Old 07-08-2014, 04:11 PM
 
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Some people just feel that it is trivial and not worth paying attention to, and think there are more important matters to attend to.

To each his own. Everyone lives life differently.

I don't believe they solve everything, you can't really rely on a person to solve your problems. Support helps but the only person that can solve your problems is YOU. Trying to cover it up or run away from with sex isn't a good idea at least that's how I feel. People shouldn't get into the habit of running away from their problems.
I think for alot of people sex is not a way to escape from anything, they just enjoy sex for its own sake. Just like alot of people like going out to have a drink, they are not drinking to escape some other problems. Its social, its what people used to do, now there are so many more people busy doing whatever.
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Old 07-08-2014, 04:14 PM
 
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Perfect Ro2113 is on ignore
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Old 07-08-2014, 04:29 PM
 
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Excellent analogy! I like that.


Glad we are on the same page!

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I think for alot of people sex is not a way to escape from anything, they just enjoy sex for its own sake. Just like alot of people like going out to have a drink, they are not drinking to escape some other problems. Its social, its what people used to do, now there are so many more people busy doing whatever.
Well if it works for them. Awesome.

My opinion on sex is that it has deeper meaning. At least for me it does. I don't have any issue with other people having sex just enjoy it in the moment, that's them. As long as I am not pressured to conform the their beliefs. They don't have to listen to me, and I don't have to listen to them. People can do what they want.
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Old 07-08-2014, 04:44 PM
 
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Five years now.
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Old 07-08-2014, 05:03 PM
 
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Glad we are on the same page!



Well if it works for them. Awesome.

My opinion on sex is that it has deeper meaning. At least for me it does. I don't have any issue with other people having sex just enjoy it in the moment, that's them. As long as I am not pressured to conform the their beliefs. They don't have to listen to me, and I don't have to listen to them. People can do what they want.
Most guys wont pressure they will just leave you alone. Sex for most guys is not that complicated. But it does require time to be made for it and that is incompatable with some peoples overly busy lifestyles.
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Old 07-08-2014, 05:28 PM
 
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What is everyone so busy doing anyways, considering 99% of us are relativly broke (compared to the 1% in our country with all the money), why not chill out and make time to have more sex, cuddle on the couch, etc. Learn to feel chemistry with someone that does not look like kate upton or channing tatum.
If only it were that easy.
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Old 07-09-2014, 11:16 AM
 
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Over a year and a half.

Still have my mind open to possibilities, which is likely stupid on my part, but I tend to be stubborn. : /
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Old 07-15-2014, 04:37 PM
 
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Healthy ones actually do, regular sex does wonders for peoples mental and physical health. What I have noticed is everyone seems to be busy beyond belief so the sex becomes less than regular so it then becomes a sort of pesudo relationship.

What is everyone so busy doing anyways, considering 99% of us are relativly broke (compared to the 1% in our country with all the money), why not chill out and make time to have more sex, cuddle on the couch, etc. Learn to feel chemistry with someone that does not look like kate upton or channing tatum.

Nailed it on the head.
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