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As you all heard heard phrases like "why do I keep getting hurt?" or "why are all men dogs?" I'm gonna explain this to you. It's not that all men are dogs and it's not exactly because you're going for that type of man either. It's usually because you're dating up. You reject 90% of the men that hit on you and you pick the best looking ones. You want the highest quality man you can get, which is understandable. Only problem is that guy you picked is out of your league and doesn't want anything serious with you. A guy will usually sleep with a girl who's not up to par with him, even one that he's not really attracted to. So while that man didn't want you, there's another girl he probably will want. It doesn't matter what matter what you look like. Have you heard of a guy who sleeps with a fat chick, but doesn't wanna commit to her. The same thing when these 5s and 6s shoot for the guy that all the girls like. If she has a nice body and she's not ugly, she's actually kinda cute, he'll talk to her, sleep with her, but usually won't commit to her. Stop dating up, that'll usually solve your problem.
Huh, interesting. So you find this behavior perfectly acceptable and excusable, as if it's HER problem and not his?
I can't agree there.
Anyone that treats others the way you describe here IS a dog...or more accurately, a juvenile a-hole.
If that is what the OP is saying, I don't agree with him. I've met plenty of attractive men who were very nice, and plenty of ugly men who were total d-bags.
This is because it has become apparent to them that being nice is not getting them the same results as the good looking guys that are nice, becasue well they are not good looking. Its easier to be a dbag than to be kind and when being kind yields no results what is the point? They already know they are not getting laid so why would they pander and play the chump?
The smart ugly guys would just go after ugly girls and do the best they could to make it work. Then they would not have to worry about being dbags becasue they would not have to put themselves in social situations that would bring out their dbagness.
Please. My intelligent, kind and traffic-stopping (no joke - she caused a near-traffic jam in NYC when we were teenagers once) beautiful friend married way below her league and has had nothing but crap from her classless, jobless, lying, thieving, homely husband. And I've seen it happen to other women, so this isn't an unusual case.
Try again, sucka.
The worst boyfriends I ever had were ALL lower than my league. The men at my league were nice to me.
I'd like to add that both parties are shallow, the women going for looks and the men that don't want to commit to them.
Having that poster's agreement doesn't lend your statement any credibility.
And I'm not trying to make them feel better. I'm trying to make them--and you--realize that maybe they shouldn't be shallow and go for looks, because guys like that aren't "dating up."
But I see I'm wasting my breath because a certain subgroup of posters want to do nothing but crab about women on this board because they think they are "edgy" by doing so.
That's my problem. I am attracted to hot guys, but so far they've all treated me poorly and I have downsized and I'm having the same problem with them. Can you please tell me that there are still gentlemen in this world that treat women properly? I haven't found one yet.
There are plenty of gentlemen, the problem is you might not have eyes for them. Another thing, lets say you found one you found attractive enough. His niceness might not trigger your attraction.
Now you are talking about online dating? You didn't say that in your OP.....I don't know anyone who uses online dating, my friends meet men in real life, in person. And what type of relationship are you talking about? At least our philosophy when it comes to dating is that dating is for fun, and if you happen to meet someone who has long term potential, then we may take it there or not. If someone is asking for a relationship from online dating, I'd say they are asking a lot out of it. They should be doing it strictly to meet people, not specifically for a serious relationship. Sounds like some are skipping a step or two.
Your theory may hold merit for a sliver of the population, but not for the majority of it.
I'm talking about dating in general. Online dating was just an example I used.
Well which is it? Women get hurt because they aim to high or because they aim too low? Pick a horse, buddy.
That's a topic for another thread 'buddy'. I said usually do you know what usually means? One issue at a time 'buddy' lol
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