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It would be considered trashy or slutty or any other derogatory, because of man does it he's considered of stud. Would you worry about what you want and what you enjoy. Heck go adventurous and and some fun. Go to a bar have a few drinks - pick up the phone call one, then call the other and when they show up hopefully there is it going to be a scuffle and try to enjoy your evening being pampered and taken care of and see what happens. I'm just saying..... if you wanted to be adventurous. You only live life once, live it do it's fullest and live it with no regrets.
Ok, just started back at the on-line dating scene. This will sound cold, but there's a guy who 'looks good on paper'- successful, well traveled. He lives in another state and is 8 yrs older (I am 54). Frankly, I like the idea of getting together for fun trips etc...but have been on my own for a long time, and not sure I really want a 'relationship' - so the distance kind of works. I have trouble with committment and don't want to feel trapped, but would enjoy the company of someone special now and then (travel mostly). There's another guy - opposite end of the spectrum; teacher, more fishing than yachting if you know what I mean. He seems nice, genuine and outdoorsy. My question is: how can I be attracted to 2 such different men/lifestyles? I re-read this an see how shallow it sounds, but I'm sincerely wondering what I'm afraid of; I spend most of my time alone - other than with girlfriends, yoga, work etc...thanks for your opinions!
I'm afraid you already answered your question: you are afraid of feeling trapped.
Different people have several different great qualities you can enjoy.. It's a matter of finding that deep 'connection.'
Ok, just started back at the on-line dating scene. This will sound cold, but there's a guy who 'looks good on paper'- successful, well traveled. He lives in another state and is 8 yrs older (I am 54). Frankly, I like the idea of getting together for fun trips etc...but have been on my own for a long time, and not sure I really want a 'relationship' - so the distance kind of works. I have trouble with committment and don't want to feel trapped, but would enjoy the company of someone special now and then (travel mostly). There's another guy - opposite end of the spectrum; teacher, more fishing than yachting if you know what I mean. He seems nice, genuine and outdoorsy. My question is: how can I be attracted to 2 such different men/lifestyles? I re-read this an see how shallow it sounds, but I'm sincerely wondering what I'm afraid of; I spend most of my time alone - other than with girlfriends, yoga, work etc...thanks for your opinions!
I think it just means that you're versatile and can fit in well in either scenario.
I think it just means that you're versatile and can fit in well in either scenario.
I think she was also talking about getting a little action from both men and not wanting any kind of strings attached...... I think that is what is prompting her "trashy" query, not so much being drawn to two differing types....
I read it more as double-standards: what's wrong with a woman dating two guys at once, making her a sl*t/ho. Thus, implying she has commitment issues, which doesn't seem to be the case but pointed out as so.
Nowhere does she say she's sleeping w/both. I don't assume so. People often will just bc a woman is seeing multiple guys. It's not ok for a women to do so, but ok for men.
I think she was also talking about getting a little action from both men and not wanting any kind of strings attached...... I think that is what is prompting her "trashy" query, not so much being drawn to two differing types....
If you read between the lines.
Oh, I rarely read between the lines.
No strings attached is no strings attached...whatever she's comfy with should be fine, but if she's asking on a forum if it's trashy, she's probably not comfortable with it.
Ok, just started back at the on-line dating scene. This will sound cold, but there's a guy who 'looks good on paper'- successful, well traveled. He lives in another state and is 8 yrs older (I am 54). Frankly, I like the idea of getting together for fun trips etc...but have been on my own for a long time, and not sure I really want a 'relationship' - so the distance kind of works. I have trouble with committment and don't want to feel trapped, but would enjoy the company of someone special now and then (travel mostly). There's another guy - opposite end of the spectrum; teacher, more fishing than yachting if you know what I mean. He seems nice, genuine and outdoorsy. My question is: how can I be attracted to 2 such different men/lifestyles? I re-read this an see how shallow it sounds, but I'm sincerely wondering what I'm afraid of; I spend most of my time alone - other than with girlfriends, yoga, work etc...thanks for your opinions!
Why would you decide to date just one of them? Has either or both come forward and told you they would just be seeing you exclusively, or are you just assuming this?
Some people still have OLD profiles up....and they have been seeing someone they met on a site for six months. This is just to let you know how very slow some people are to agree to become exclusive!
If neither of them has put a ring on your finger then you are SINGLE. An adult single woman can do what she wants, including dating two guys to see where it goes. I take it you'll be dating them, not bedding them.
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