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You came here because you aren't happy and you know you have a problem. The fact that you laugh off Nila's excellent advice shows that you need professional therapy.
Either you want change or you just want to b*tch. Pick one.
I am going to take everyone's advice as it all was extremely helpful. Honestly. Especially CarbonCountyLiving. I like your personality.
Thanks. I wish you a lot of luck. It sounds like you are open to switching things up, which is great. You're already miles above many of the other people on here who state their issues yet aren't open to change. Good luck!
alright Mr Single for Six Years,
I think you got good advice to seek counseling. Not that you're totally "broken/lunatic", just that you need to address some internal issues.
I recommend that you ease back on the "looking for my WIFE while pushing my shopping cart down the aisle" and cringing in disgust and envy when you see some happy couple kiss. I think you should socialize more, develop some friendships with random women, and learn about making that empathetic and genuine connection with another human being. If you have some picture in your head of some skater girl or other idealized fantasy, you might miss out on great catch because she didn't wear her "costume" that day. Just concentrate on making friends, and I bet some casual dates will come along.
All of your comments and advice is very helpful. I honestly did not think that many people would respond to me.LOL. Anyway, I have a good way of putting how I'm feeling now days. I'm actually a emotional, want to be romantic, nice guy. Genuinely. Slowly over the years, something has been causing me to rot emotionally. It honestly feels like something has its claws sunk into my flesh and I can't get away from it so I have lately been reaching out for help before I COMPLETELY lose all my emotions and niceness. I have very little left in me which I am trying hard to save because I know it is who I really am. I understand that I am inferior/undesirable to most women and I'm trying to be who they want me to be but I cannot betray myself so I'm sticking to being me and letting go of the fact that no one is coming. Look out world, you have another trashy, wacko old man in the future to deal with!! LOL. It is what it is. I sincerely appreciate each and every one of you guys/gals for your comments and advice. Thsnks
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My issues are actually quite common amongst people. I mean, you're acting like I'm a lunatic or something. LOL
No. The bolded is not at all common. It's kind of edging towards the lunatic spectrum. It's good that you opened up about this, but now you need to take it seriously, not brush it off. Taking that first step to seek out competent counseling can be hard, but once you're into it, you'll be glad you pushed yourself to take the step. Consider it an investment in your future happiness. What you describe isn't a happy camper. Life can get better. Give yourself a shot at that.
I think you are way over-thinking this. You should just enjoy being single and quit focusing on being in a relationship. Just live your life and enjoy. I would suggest maybe joining some clubs or something that gets you out there. You say you are a skater. Maybe try meeting some women who also enjoy this?
"For the people that have been single for a long time, how do you stop caring about being single and accept the fact that you might be alone the rest of your life?"
Again, you need to shift your way of thinking. Instead of focusing on the negative, look at the positive things of being single. You can make your own decisions, go wherever you want when you want, etc. I never sit around worrying about if I'll be alone the rest of my life. I have too many things going on to worry about it much.
alright Mr Single for Six Years,
I think you got good advice to seek counseling. Not that you're totally "broken/lunatic", just that you need to address some internal issues.
I recommend that you ease back on the "looking for my WIFE while pushing my shopping cart down the aisle" and cringing in disgust and envy when you see some happy couple kiss. I think you should socialize more, develop some friendships with random women, and learn about making that empathetic and genuine connection with another human being. If you have some picture in your head of some skater girl or other idealized fantasy, you might miss out on great catch because she didn't wear her "costume" that day. Just concentrate on making friends, and I bet some casual dates will come along.
No. The bolded is not at all common. It's kind of edging towards the lunatic spectrum. It's good that you opened up about this, but now you need to take it seriously, not brush it off. Taking that first step to seek out competent counseling can be hard, but once you're into it, you'll be glad you pushed yourself to take the step. Consider it an investment in your future happiness. What you describe isn't a happy camper. Life can get better. Give yourself a shot at that.
LOL I hear what you are saying but I didn't mean for it to come off as a lunatic. I just have a vivid/animated imagination. I'm not crazy I promise. I shouldn't have been so creative with that statement. Sorry guys/gals
Maybe roughly 3 times. But to answer your question, heck no! LOL. I don't give up easy. That's how I became excellent at what I do for a living. Relationship/dating in the other hand.... I dunno. I'm starting to feel like a dog chasing its tail when it comes to that kind of stuff in my life.
Show'em the M3. 60% of the time that works every time.
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