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well i think you seem to know what's generating her comments. there is a clinical term for this: ruminating. google and see if it is consistent with your behavior. i'm not saying you have a medical condition, it's often more of a symptom or personality trait. but there are some healthy habits you can incorporate into your lifestyle that could have improvements in overall well being, such as meditation, mindfulness, even prayer helps. good habits whether you ruminate or not, it all about pausing and appreciating the here and now, and draining all that brain static. gratefulness is also a healthy habit.
It could be.
As I've mentioned before, I had something of a transformation in my mid 20s - going from being rather cynical about life and women, lacking confidence, and only dating very troubled or unattractive women, to suddenly "getting it" and improving my life.
Once in a while, a hint of those old habits sneaks its way back into my head.
hmm, i had a related evolution but the improvements continue, as well as catching leaks and other other imperfections.
bad habits, even those we think are benign or just take for granted, impact quality of life and relationships.
these days i'm focusing on anything that saps time and energy (like this internet/forum b.s.), along with other health, well-being and other quality of life improvements. but journaling and reflecting/discussing on relationship behavior and male-female dynamics is also part of the introspection. sounds like a lot, but that's because it's a zen "work in progress", a wholesale transformation.
funny how when you think you got, you discover there is more work to do. it's like the saying, whatever skills, talents and abilities that it took to get you to this point in life, aren't necessarily the same to get you to your next point.
Just something my wife and I were discussing. We have good communication, but there was a discussion a few nights ago that I sometimes bring up things that I think *might* be a conflict beforehand, so as to head it off. She felt that I am creating problems that don't exist by doing this. We're good now, and it was just a minor discussion, but I wonder if there's something to that.
What do you think?
Why would this be bad? Thinking (and discussing) before doing, in most cases, should be encouraged.
It was just something that was on my mind. I read too much crap (some of it here, honestly) and then my brain won't let it go.
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