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Now here is the problem, there are three departments in this large room: my department, the single mother's department and a third department. My department is being relocated to Mexico City. I am the only person who has not been notified of a pending layoff. My position is unique in the group and it will take an additional 6 to 12 months for the company to arrange and decide if my role goes to Mexico. I am preparing for that eventuality. As of the end of March all my co-workers as well as the third department will be laid off and gone. That will leave me alone with the single mother's department and because I will not reciprocate any interest in the single mother they look at me with scorn and treat me like a pariah.
Because I live alone and work a lot of hours I do like to socialize a little at work. Obviously I try to respect the workloads of my co-workers and I use discretion when socializing but I do value the interactions I have with co-workers. I don't want to end up being a social pariah where I work, so on one hand maybe I should show some interest. Of course dating at work is risky regardless of the single parent issue. In addition to the single parent versus childfree issue there is also the potential messiness of workplace romance and the potential for being laid off in 2015. This whole situation is leaving me very confused and writing this post is the first time I have expressed my conflicted feelings and confusion either verbally or in writing. Any thoughts on my situation as it applies to the OP's topic would be much appreciated.
I guess I'm not sure what you are asking? As I understand you have no romantic interest in her and don't want that to get in the way of the work place? Hard for me to believe that female co workers would try to shame a man into showing interest back? Something doesn't sound right here.
So are you interested in this woman or not? Still haven't made that clear.
If my husband dropped dead tomorrow, I'd probably date someone with kids, but they'd need to be pretty self-sufficient and/or older. I have kids of my own but they aren't needy and demanding. I'm beyond that stage of life and have no desire to go back to it.
I guess I'm not sure what you are asking? As I understand you have no romantic interest in her and don't want that to get in the way of the work place? Hard for me to believe that female co workers would try to shame a man into showing interest back? Something doesn't sound right here.
So are you interested in this woman or not? Still haven't made that clear.
I will admit it is challenging not to look at her and that stems from the fact that she is far more attractive than the women that I have typically been involved with. I would be interested for sure if there was no child involved but I am unsure with the child involved.
So I recently signed up for Match.com Just went through the daily 10 matches and every single woman already has a kid(s). Disappointing. Out of all of them there was only one that had enough other things about her to get me interested enough to write. I have nothing against single mothers, I'd just rather not date them is all. I'm sure there are enough single dads out there for all the single moms, where are the single childless women?!
So I recently signed up for Match.com Just went through the daily 10 matches and every single woman already has a kid(s). Disappointing. Out of all of them there was only one that had enough other things about her to get me interested enough to write. I have nothing against single mothers, I'd just rather not date them is all. I'm sure there are enough single dads out there for all the single moms, where are the single childless women?!
That is the way I have felt unequivocally until now. I started a new job back in June at a large company. I work in a cubicle located in a large rectangular room with many other cubicles. Three cubicles down from me sits a very attractive woman (a 9 on a scale of 1 to 10). It is worth noting that I have never dated a woman better than a 6 and I could be happy with a 5.
Now here is the problem, there are three departments in this large room: my department, the single mother's department and a third department. My department is being relocated to Mexico City. I am the only person who has not been notified of a pending layoff. My position is unique in the group and it will take an additional 6 to 12 months for the company to arrange and decide if my role goes to Mexico. I am preparing for that eventuality. As of the end of March all my co-workers as well as the third department will be laid off and gone. That will leave me alone with the single mother's department and because I will not reciprocate any interest in the single mother they look at me with scorn and treat me like a pariah.
Because I live alone and work a lot of hours I do like to socialize a little at work. Obviously I try to respect the workloads of my co-workers and I use discretion when socializing but I do value the interactions I have with co-workers. I don't want to end up being a social pariah where I work, so on one hand maybe I should show some interest. Of course dating at work is risky regardless of the single parent issue. In addition to the single parent versus childfree issue there is also the potential messiness of workplace romance and the potential for being laid off in 2015. This whole situation is leaving me very confused and writing this post is the first time I have expressed my conflicted feelings and confusion either verbally or in writing. Any thoughts on my situation as it applies to the OP's topic would be much appreciated.
Dude, you want to bang the attractive girl in your job but don't want to because she has kids and you work with her. My advise would be don't shyt where you eat.
In regards to the below statement; How do you know this girl is not dating outside of work? How do you know this girl is even interested in you?? That will leave me alone with the single mother's department and because I will not reciprocate any interest in the single mother they look at me with scorn and treat me like a pariah.
Not a deal breaker if she has a kid/s. Her only mistake is to love and trust a person who was unworthy. Guys make those mistakes as well.
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