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"I found that [...] a 7 or 8 for a guy who is not as good looking, like us, is going to be more difficult than a 9 or a 10, because they don't need to validate themself with a good looking guy."
Seriously, knock this crap off. This is not a relationship topic, you have serious issues with self that would best be served in the psychology or mental health forum.
As I responded to you in another post, how is any of this helping you get a date? Your peers are dating, and you're searching youtube videos to try and make some ridiculous point that doesn't matter and no one cares about but you. Get off the internet and go outside for heaven's sake!
You know the funny thing about all this... people don't really go around thinking to themselves, "I'm an 8" or whatever. At least, none that I know of. Looking at myself, some guys don't give me the time of day/aren't attracted at all and other guys (I am thinking of a date I had this summer) figuratively drool over me. So how does one know if they are a 6 or 8 or whatever? Does anyone else here assign themselves a number to live by?
Anyway, where I think there might be a grain of truth to this (and I am only saying it's a grain). There are some people out there who are obsessed with looks--to the exclusion of everything else including, compatibility, interests, personality, love. And men and women both can be this way. I could see someone who is obsessed with their own looks being so insecure that they think, "I need a hot girlfriend/boyfriend to show how good looking I am." You see it in the mentally of people who are so shallow and self centered that they talk about "trading up" with relationships--like a person was nothing but mere property or an accessory. Those kinds of people are best avoided anyway.
You know the funny thing about all this... people don't really go around thinking to themselves, "I'm an 8" or whatever. At least, none that I know of. Looking at myself, some guys don't give me the time of day/aren't attracted at all and other guys (I am thinking of a date I had this summer) figuratively drool over me. So how does one know if they are a 6 or 8 or whatever? Does anyone else here assign themselves a number to live by?
Anyway, where I think there might be a grain of truth to this (and I am only saying it's a grain). There are some people out there who are obsessed with looks--to the exclusion of everything else including, compatibility, interests, personality, love. And men and women both can be this way. I could see someone who is obsessed with their own looks being so insecure that they think, "I need a hot girlfriend/boyfriend to show how good looking I am." You see it in the mentally of people who are so shallow and self centered that they talk about "trading up" with relationships--like a person was nothing but mere property or an accessory. Those kinds of people are best avoided anyway.
I concur 100%. I've never viewed some woman as a number, I go by the whole package. I've always laughed at this to be honest, this has to be one of the most subjective things there is. Among my friends, we have such different tastes and this is only three people. As for myself, I don't worry about things like that. Some women will be attracted others not. The problem comes when people think everyone should be attracted to them. Those people are just setting themselves up to fail.
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