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My partner and I have been together for 6 years and we have a 1 year old son. Things are not so good when it comes to sex since the baby was born, which is natural. She's more worried, more tired and I understand all of that.
So to spice things up, I approached a female colleague at work regarding a threesome. I know she's very frisky and would go along with it. She immediately said that she was up for it.
So I thought we could leave our son with the grandparents for the weekend so we could have fun all the 3 of us.
When I told my partner about it, she went mad. She said she couldn't believe I was suggesting such a thing, that I have no respect for her and that it's a disgusting idea. Then I told her that if she preferred we could have an escort instead of a woman I know if she feels more comfortable. She said she just couldn't recognise me and that went away.
We haven't spoken in these past few days. I've tried to speak with her again but she avoids me.
I mean, I thought it was a good idea to improve things in bed. I couldn't imagine she would be so prudish. I've tried this with a previous girlfriend and it didn't change a thing.
Not everyone is going to be interested in a threesome, and not being so does not make her a prude. It's admirable that you want to spice things up, but maybe your first move should have been to get a hotel room for a little time away, just the two of you, not bringing someone else in.
Um, yeah. While generally speaking, it's healthy to explore new sexual activities to try to spice up your sex life, the preferred method is to talk to your partner *first*, then go looking for a third.
Not everyone is going to be interested in a threesome, and not being so does not make her a prude. It's admirable that you want to spice things up, but maybe your first move should have been to get a hotel room for a little time away, just the two of you, not bringing someone else in.
She's very attached to the baby and wouldn't want to get away for now. I I thought the fun could come to our house.
As fleetie said, it's admirable that you're trying to spice up your sex life, but any new ideas should be coming from you *and* your wife, not you on your own. Asking a co-worker to have sex with you without running that idea by your wife first would be considered borderline-cheating by a lot of people. I forsee a lot of crow in your diet for the immediate future.
Why didn't you present the idea to your woman first before having a conversation like that with a coworker?
I thought it would be harder to find a third person than convincing my partner so I thought I would guarantee another woman was interested before bringing up the idea to her.
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Originally Posted by usamathman
My guess is that you have already had sex with the woman you are working with? Or you have already developed some type
of emotional connection with her. Otherwise how would you known that she was game for a threesome.
No but she'll flirt with me from time to time. Besides, when we go out on the company's parties she usually leaves with men she met that night. She's really up for "action".
She's very attached to the baby and wouldn't want to get away for now. I I thought the fun could come to our house.
Still missing the point. You've got a baby, so of course a lot of her energy is devoted that way. She's probably tired and stressed. What you did was pretty much tell her you want to sleep with someone else.
Still want to spice things up? Send the kid to grandma's, put on some Barry White, start a fire, open some champagne, and reconnect with each other, just the two of you. That your first move was to suggest a threesome seems pretty tone deaf.
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