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I believe that the choice is ultimately the woman's, but that the man (in any given situation) should have the opportunity to voice his thoughts, too.
He doesn't have the right until he knows it is his. You are fine. I am not saying you slept around but for all technical reasons and to allow you to make a clear headed decision, he can't possibly know it is his 100%
I believe that the choice is ultimately the woman's, but that the man (in any given situation) should have the opportunity to voice his thoughts, too.
So you are willing to keep the baby if he wants to? That would be the only reason to tell him. I'm not delusional. I'm not the one who is knocked up, makes a public post on FB and is worried about baby daddy retaliating.
So you are willing to keep the baby if he wants to? That would be the only reason to tell him. I'm not delusional. I'm not the one who is knocked up, makes a public post on FB and is worried about baby daddy retaliating.
Good luck with that!
I think you are being a bit too harsh. She is not in the right frame of mind. A lot has been going on so cut her some slack you know... She is only 19
So you are willing to keep the baby if he wants to? That would be the only reason to tell him. I'm not delusional. I'm not the one who is knocked up, makes a public post on FB and is worried about baby daddy retaliating.
Good luck with that!
Why do you keep saying that she made a post on Facebook about it? SHE didn't. HE is the one that went on her Facebook page and made a post about it. She didn't want anyone to know.
Looking at it from an outsider's perspective, if you weren't planning on keeping the baby and you were planning on breaking up with him, it might have been best to keep it to yourself. However, I'm just like the OP and would have told him anyway. Luckily, I'm pretty sure every guy I've been with would have supported my decision either way.
Go with your gut instinct on this. From what I read, he tried to manipulate and control you... and he broke your trust by posting to Facebook and telling your mother (in an attempt to control you). I would firmly end things with him and cut off all communication. He's not the type of man you want around, baby or no baby. And like others said, a lot of guys are all talk, but there are enough single, unwed mothers out there to point out that not all men keep their promises. Considering his behavior, I wouldn't trust him on this.
I can't, in good conscious, at least suggest putting the baby up for adoption. It's your right to choose whatever you want to do, but I didn't see you mention adoption in your considered choices (just keeping the child and abortion).
Of course I considered adoption, but I feel like that would carry out as many complications, if not more, than keeping the baby. Like I said, I've thought about this and thought about it and it's what I want to do. I'm very adamant in my right to choose because it's not only what's best for me, but I know that ultimately, it's best for everyone, including my family and boyfriend.
I think you are being a bit too harsh. She is not in the right frame of mind. A lot has been going on so cut her some slack you know... She is only 19
Good point. I agree she is not in the right frame of mind.
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Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76
Why do you keep saying that she made a post on Facebook about it? SHE didn't. HE is the one that went on her Facebook page and made a post about it. She didn't want anyone to know.
Oh...I see. I thought she made it after he told her mother.
So you are willing to keep the baby if he wants to? That would be the only reason to tell him. I'm not delusional. I'm not the one who is knocked up, makes a public post on FB and is worried about baby daddy retaliating.
Good luck with that!
What are you talking about? I didn't post anything.
Of course I considered adoption, but I feel like that would carry out as many complications, if not more, than keeping the baby. Like I said, I've thought about this and thought about it and it's what I want to do. I'm very adamant in my right to choose because it's not only what's best for me, but I know that ultimately, it's best for everyone, including my family and boyfriend.
You did the right and honorable thing. Like I said, technically, it may not be his. You have seen Maury right? But on a serious note, you did the right thing. Make a decision, stop worrying about how it will play out with others. Your BF betrayed you and I will be surprised if you keep him around.
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