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Ok, I'm on match.com and get a lot of emails from guys..i went on one date with this guy who happens to be 5 years younger. I'm 32 and he's 27..usually, after my dates I'll get a text saying they had a good time and they want to go out again..ok,cool..good deal..after my date with him, he texts me the very next day wanting me to go to lunch..I stayed home from work bc I had drank a little too much wine..I told him I stayed home from work and I shouldn't be going out and also I had a massive headache..he said ok I'll come by in an hour and bring you soup..very sweet but once again I just wanted to lay on the couch not feeling well. He called me that night hinting about getting together that night..I said couldnt..then he asked me today to go to the arts show tonight downtown..problem is I have a date already..I told him "sorry I already have plans :/ what are you up to Sunday? He texted back kinda with an attitude he was already doing something..my question is why should I feel bad after one date with someone that I'm going out with others? I'm not in s relationship and this time around im going to date lots until I know for sure..btw we did kiss, cuddle, make out..but no sex..once again we were both drinking some wine..I don't need to hear about why I shouldn't drink on dates...why does this guy have an attitude now?? It was just one date!!
Ok, I'm on match.com and get a lot of emails from guys..i went on one date with this guy who happens to be 5 years younger. I'm 32 and he's 27..usually, after my dates I'll get a text saying they had a good time and they want to go out again..ok,cool..good deal..after my date with him, he texts me the very next day wanting me to go to lunch..I stayed home from work bc I had drank a little too much wine..I told him I stayed home from work and I shouldn't be going out and also I had a massive headache..he said ok I'll come by in an hour and bring you soup..very sweet but once again I just wanted to lay on the couch not feeling well. He called me that night hinting about getting together that night..I said couldnt..then he asked me today to go to the arts show tonight downtown..problem is I have a date already..I told him "sorry I already have plans :/ what are you up to Sunday? He texted back kinda with an attitude he was already doing something..my question is why should I feel bad after one date with someone that I'm going out with others? I'm not in s relationship and this time around im going to date lots until I know for sure..btw we did kiss, cuddle, make out..but no sex..once again we were both drinking some wine..I don't need to hear about why I shouldn't drink on dates...why does this guy have an attitude now?? It was just one date!!
He just wants to see you again. Blow it off. If he has a better attitude about seeing you later, see him again if you liked him.
I never cared for juggling guys, myself. But, if that's what you want, you should get used to this.
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Are you sure he knows you're going out with someone else and that's why he's upset? Maybe his plans on Sunday are to go out with someone else too? I mean, I get that he's annoyed, but not that this is definitely the reason. Maybe he just thinks you're avoiding him and have a lot of excuses not to see him.
As long as everybody who deserves to know, knows what's going on, there is no foul. As it is, without commitment, you should be able to do whatever you want. However.....if you are the same female who posted about the guy who didn't call, whatever, then I'd say you are overcompensating. I mean, that you seem to want to put yourself in the position, where you won't get hurt. Unfortunately, that isn't something that you become overnight. And from what I recall, you wouldn't really fit the mold of someone who could casually date multiple men.....
There is nothing to feel bad about in your situation.
Also, don't read too much into his reaction. Sounds like he REALLY wants to get together again, so that should be taken as complimentary. He just might be disappointed/frustrated since making plans has been a little difficult.
If you want to give it a second date, schedule something even if a number of days out. Otherwise, let him know your just not that interested.
BTW, I would have no expectation that someone disclose how many people they are dating in advance of or on a first date. Honestly, if it is a first date, I would naturally assume they are dating more than one person and were not just sitting at home for days/weeks/months waiting for me to walk by.
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