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OP, why did you start a new account? You're not supposed to have multiple accounts here. It's not allowed.
We won't give you a different answer from before. You two don't seem to be sexually compatible. How much longer do you want to put up with this? What did you think we could do for you? It seems she's not going to change. So you have to decide if you can live with it, or not. To me, it sounds like the answer is "not". But you stay with her because of the affection and other things? You two get along except for the sexual issue? There are women out there who you can get along with, share affection with, AND who would enjoy sex with you. It may take you awhile to find one, but wouldn't being alone be better than this frustration?
Talk to her about the issue instead of posting a Novella on the internet.
To recap from previous thread by the OP:
He talked to her about it (more than once, but again in the last few weeks). Nothing happens. It turns out, she's not able to orgasm, and won't let the OP try to make that happen. Once, he was close (she was close--oral), but she pushed him away before the Big Bang, and wouldn't allow it.
So there's an issue there, some kind of psychological issue, it seems. She's just not comfortable letting go to that degree, or maybe she has a trauma in her history, or who knows what. But she's not interested in working on it with the OP, or in getting counseling to get to the bottom of whatever her emotional block is.
OP, why did you start a new account? You're not supposed to have multiple accounts here. It's not allowed.
We won't give you a different answer from before. You two don't seem to be sexually compatible. How much longer do you want to put up with this? What did you think we could do for you? It seems she's not going to change. So you have to decide if you can live with it, or not. To me, it sounds like the answer is "not". But you stay with her because of the affection and other things? You two get along except for the sexual issue? There are women out there who you can get along with, share affection with, AND who would enjoy sex with you. It may take you awhile to find one, but wouldn't being alone be better than this frustration?
Only you can decide that.
Have to go with this. Sex is a bit of an important thing in most relationships. You 2 just seem to have different sex drives, and sometimes that doesn't last long. Eventually someone will be fed up and leave, or cheat.
So, if this really drives you crazy, it may be time to cut your losses on the relationship. Thankfully it's only been 1 year, and you two have no kids, combined finances and/or possessions, so walking away is easiest at this point.
What do you want to happen? Wait until you're married, wasted many more years on a relationship with lack of sex, or have kids and joint possessions where you have to go through a giant hassle to get out?
I don't remember the username, but I remember the story. The gf keeps making excuses for not spending the weekend with him, when his parents are away. Trivial excuses. The OP seems like basically a good guy, but the gf has a hangup about sex. Otherwise, they get along great.
edit: Ah, here it is. OP, maybe you forgot that you've posted here before? Have you been posting on several forums?
I believe it's Spanish for novel / story / soap opera , or something similar. I haven't heard the word in ages though lol
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