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I would skip the dating website advice and read up on basic general psych.
Yes, especially since most of it is useless and based on dating from decades ago ( a good example is that book "The Rules"). People need to understand that change is constant. If you don't adapt, you'll be left in the dust.
According to the articles, the advice is based on the idea that men are born hunters, as a result of evolution.
More of this silly nonsense.
Although, I have encountered deer on my walk from the metro to my office some mornings. It is sometimes tempting to get my bow and arrow out of my closet, but I doubt I'd be allowed on the train. **shrugs**
Well, we've only been boyfriend/girlfriend for a month. We started out going out on friendly dates, with him not knowing if I liked him and me not sure how I felt about him either. It was only towards the end of January that we started dating with the understanding that we were attracted to each other. And last month, we decided to become official. But the point is, I am not yet 100% comfortable with him, and he said he's not 100% comfortable with me yet.
You are both not really into each other. Why are you wasting your time??
You are both not really into each other. Why are you wasting your time??
Where did you get that? I can't speak for him, but I can speak for myself, and I am definitely into him. Like, I'm falling in love with the guy. Not being 100% comfortable with someone doesn't translate to "not into you." We're still getting to know each other. We've both been burned and are both being cautious.
You are both not really into each other. Why are you wasting your time??
I would say that if you've been getting to know him for almost six months, and you're still shaky on whether or not you area even comfortable with one another, neither is in a position to be dating. Six months is plenty of time to assess basic comfortability, if you are in a healthy place.
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I would say that if you've been getting to know him for almost six months, and you're still shaky on whether or not you area even comfortable with one another, neither is in a position to be dating. Six months is plenty of time to assess basic comfortability, if you are in a healthy place.
God I would hope so. 6 mos is a good chunk of time. Cautious is one thing (and it doesn't sound fun), but this is straight up non passionate.
Honestly, if you're THAT gunshy from past experiences, you're better served dealing with whatever past trauma is leading such problems getting comfortable with others before attempting to move onward.
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More of this silly nonsense.
