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Old 07-08-2015, 11:13 AM
 
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If a girl is in a relationship, what would it mean if she always chatted with another guy on FB? I met a girl through a mutual friend. We "friended" on FB, and have been chatting about different stuff on FB since we met in person(like 2 weeks now). I'm really crushing on this girl but I respect that she has a BF. I heard her and the mutual friend fighting a little about her and her BF's relationship. Maybe it's going bad. What should I think about the fact that she has been chatting with me ever since we met? Is she just trying to be a buddy or is she interested in me? I'm not much for coming between 2 people. I just don't know why a girl would consistently talk to me if she has a BF, and I already told here I was interested in her the first time I met her.
OK, maybe this is just me, but since when does chatting on FB mean anything? Seriously? It's not like she had sex with you, so you might be lead to believe you're in a relationship. WTH?
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Old 07-08-2015, 11:32 AM
 
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dont do it. I've been in ur shoes, you will start feeling more attached and the girl will say, But i thought we were just friends? You'll probably be her emotional fix that she probably isnt getting from her boyfriend. Make a stand, and dont waste your time unless she says, i want to be with u too
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Old 07-08-2015, 11:38 AM
 
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My two former guy friends told me that they wanted to be friends with me, so that's why I thought it. However, as years went on, it became clear that they wanted to push the boundaries of the friendship and I wasn't ok with that.
It's natural. Even if you were initially on board to be just friends, it's hard not to want to have more with someone as you get to know them, especially if you don't view them as a sea donkey. Like attracts like and when you spend enough time around someone, you can sense yourself starting to like them. It's why the friendship is harder for the guy than it is the woman. It's more natural for women to get male friends, because women likely get most of their emotional support from other women. Men very seldom get that kind of support from a male, so the longer they build that friendship with the woman, the easier it is for them to start falling for them. The hope is that the woman will fall for them too, but it's a mixed bag.
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Old 07-08-2015, 12:21 PM
 
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I like guys just as friends. I just lost 2 guys who stepped over the lines that I settled. Friends are friends.

Please guys, just be as friends with females, it is great!

But it is true, sometimes even try to stay formal, one or both would have deeper feelings. Then it is time for time out, cold shower and settling things in order. If not settle, then have to break those friendships.

No flirting, not too much playfull things.

Just formal and interesting discussions.
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Old 07-08-2015, 03:41 PM
 
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I like guys just as friends. I just lost 2 guys who stepped over the lines that I settled. Friends are friends.

Please guys, just be as friends with females, it is great!

But it is true, sometimes even try to stay formal, one or both would have deeper feelings. Then it is time for time out, cold shower and settling things in order. If not settle, then have to break those friendships.

No flirting, not too much playfull things.

Just formal and interesting discussions.
If you're both single, I honestly don't see the point in being just friends unless there is no physical attraction. I still don't get it...and if the woman isn't single but the guy is, chances are he's hoping for more at some point down the road.
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