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Not disposable, but some women cannot maintain long-term relationships. Part of it is them and and part of it is the men they choose. Occasionally, they pick men who are available for healthy relationships, but they usually end up sabotaging these relationships.
I have had several long relationships. In my teens/ early 20's I was with my ex-husband 10 years. Our relationship ended because he was not into me and just wanted a marriage of convenience. I was with my sons father for 7 years. He was crazy and always cheating and looking for someone better.
Urban Sasquatch, I liked that post. I've been trying to work out what my own "common denominator" factor is with some of the less than stellar results I've had. Here's a question, though...
A man I'm starting to see begins to ask probing questions about my past, my relationship history, etc. If I tell him the truth about things, then I will tread onto at least one of those landmines. But I do not like to lie. If I dodge the question or decline to answer, I probably come off like I have something to hide.
It seems to me that once a woman has accumulated life experience or adversity of some kind, it doesn't matter if she remains optimistic and strong and positive, learns lessons from it and gains some wisdom, resists becoming jaded...if everything has not been sunshine, roses, and innocence, then she has no hope of having a connection with anything but a loser looking for a pack mule to carry his problems for him.
So unless you ARE perfect and innocent with no actual history, you're doomed.
A quality man who has his stuff together doesn't look to your past to judge your character. He looks to your present over time.
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Maybe it really is just as simple as giving them sex too soon or too easily, but yet I've had other interactions where people have gotten that from me and wanted to stay. Just not that one particular sort of man. Perhaps "HE" is the kind who must earn it. Hm.
It is somewhat related to this. It takes time to get to know someone and to understand his or her character. Quick sex bypasses this. It doesn't change whether or not a particular guy will stay with you or not. It does change the fact that you haven't given yourself and him enough time to know if he wants to stay with you.
I have had several long relationships. In my teens/ early 20's I was with my ex-husband 10 years. Our relationship ended because he was not into me and just wanted a marriage of convenience. I was with my sons father for 7 years. He was crazy and always cheating and looking for someone better.
Yeah, I left that part out. Some of these types of women may be in long-term relationships, but they are pretty much always tumultuous.
How long do you typically go being single? How long without dating at all?
I was single June 2014 through February 2015. I did go on 61 dates from July 2014-Sept 2014, but did not see a future with any of them. All were met through online dating.
But I am not a loser. I grew up as the rich kid in town. I have never done drugs. No criminal records. Own two houses in the area.
Like attracts like. Doesn't mean you are a loser (or with the guys you are attracting). It means you probably had abusive or distant parents that couldn't provide the environment you needed to be able to have close, intimate, loving relationships with guys.
Like attracts like. Doesn't mean you are a loser (or with the guys you are attracting). It means you probably had abusive or distant parents that couldn't provide the environment you needed to be able to have close, intimate, loving relationships with guys.
I had distant, career oriented parents. But I am super lovey, and touchy. I thrive best in close and intimate, loving relationships. With the exception of the current guy (so far) I find guys that become very distant, cheat, and just do not want to be near me.
I was single June 2014 through February 2015. I did go on 61 dates from July 2014-Sept 2014, but did not see a future with any of them. All were met through online dating.
61 dates on two months?
you went on a date per day? with different men? where do you get the energy (or time) to do something like that?
you went on a date per day? with different men? where do you get the energy (or time) to do something like that?
More importantly - Why?!
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But I am super lovey, and touchy. I thrive best in close and intimate, loving relationships. With the exception of the current guy (so far) I find guys that become very distant, cheat, and just do not want to be near me.
That comes from you. There is a reason you pick those kinds of guys. The current guy will either turn out to be the same or you will start to push him away and do things to sabotage the relationship.
women get tired of their sh** and don't want to continue meeting.
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