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Here is my philosophy on OLD. First pick a pay site because people that pay nothing tend not to be as serious. I had fabulous luck on eHarmony. It takes a little more time and effort but that's a good thing because the people are more motivated. If you are willing to spend $20 or so and a bunch of time filing out questionnaires it improves your chances of finding a like minded individual. Also just respond to your conversations and don't get your hopes up. If you get your hopes up every time someone contacts you or visa versa you will go crazy and soon burn out from the emotional highs and lows.
Here is my philosophy on OLD. First pick a pay site because people that pay nothing tend not to be as serious. I had fabulous luck on eHarmony. It takes a little more time and effort but that's a good thing because the people are more motivated. If you are willing to spend $20 or so and a bunch of time filing out questionnaires it improves your chances of finding a like minded individual. Also just respond to your conversations and don't get your hopes up. If you get your hopes up every time someone contacts you or visa versa you will go crazy and soon burn out from the emotional highs and lows.
I'm about at that stage of being burned out. I'm losing the optimism I once had that OLD could be an option. I haven't tried eHarmony for a while, but the last time I tried it the experience was awful. I heard they got a way around all the silly questionnaires though. I had a hard time finding anyone real and local to talk to.
I wonder where the hell eligible ladies are looking for a man. The only place I can think of is the damn bar. The place where any half decent looking lady is literally surrounded by men looking to get laid.
I've met 3 women on OLD sites, 1 of whom I'm still friends with (even after a brief fling; another with whom I had an actual relationship (until she got flaky on me); the third we met for lunch but there was no chemistry so, obviously, no 2nd date.
OLD is a major crapshoot - you may, or may not, find someone. As I mentioned in another thread, I think that too many women on the sites are looking for Brad Pitt-types. Or guys with $$$$. One site I was on, some woman had the audacity to put in her profile: "Ugly men need not apply!" I so wanted to lambaste her, but I let it go. Incidentally, she was no beauty queen herself!
POF, OKC, Match.com, even Zoosk...you take your risks!
Haha, that's like the female version of a guy putting, "No fat chicks" in his profile. It's so obnoxious regardless of gender.
I've tried POF (Plenty of Fish) recently and it has gotten me no results. It's full of either men I'm not attracted to or guys that only want casual dates and to have fun but nothing serious.
A while back, some guy kept insisting on coming to his place to get together. As soon as I said nope, that I just wanted to hang out and return home, he ghosted out on me and never heard from him since. Now another man ghosted out on me; I haven't heard from him for days now (he used to respond right away). I'm not sure if it's the dating site that's negative or I must be doing something wrong.
They are just places to get laid, cheat, or escape. Once in awhile one works and makes a crappy commercial out of it. Everyone I know that uses them gets sex out of it, good and bad, and that's about it. The rest is BS.
From a guy's perspective, there are just too many immature girls between 20-30 y.o on OLD. There is just so much garbage to wade through. But that doesn't mean you should totally give up on it.
Probably the same from a girl's perspective, unless they're looking in the late 30's early 40's bracket.
The other thing about OLD is that it becomes addictive. I've had good conversations going with women, and then out of nowhere the contact stops. I also feel a little weird talking to a bunch of different women, but because they just disappear sometimes after many nice conversations, you have to have a lot of backups and keep all potentials in play. Also it's weird because so many women(and probably guys too) are on their all the time. I've gone out with this one girl a couple times, and every time I'm on the site she's always "online." I guess until it's official, people just keep playing the game.
I also never know at what point to ask for a woman's number or how many email exchanges before you ask to meet up. If you ask too early, they think you're coming on too strong, but if you wait too long, things fade out.
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