dated married women who went back to husband and called off divorce (single, separate)
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A month has passed and she texted me that i am in her heart and she loves me madly but that she is determined to make it work with her husband. It was completely unsolicited.
That is cray cray. I would not respond. And I would assume it was her husband that sent it as a test.
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I dated a married woman that was in the process of divorce. We were together for a year and the first 11 months were great. We had a really bad last month which is almost all my fault and she ended up going back to her husband. It was pretty unexpected and caused a domino effect as the husband had a girlfriend also who got the axe.
We gave back keys, items, all that stuff and had a goodbye lunch where we apologized to each other (I did most of the apologizing). We left amiably and I put it out of my mind. A month has passed and she texted me that i am in her heart and she loves me madly but that she is determined to make it work with her husband. It was completely unsolicited. I returned a text that said i feel the same way about her and good luck with your marriage. She continued to text me saying she found a watch of mine and burst into tears and that she loves me very much.
I'm unsure if I should pursue this, if there is something to pursue, if its right to pursue it. And if i do choose to pursue it with what strategy? And what could her motives be?
what are the protocols for dating married people who are going through divorce anyway? Some divorces can take over a year
I'm not some sort of raving social conservative ... that said, I do think there is a place for some of those beliefs.
One such belief is, don't mess with anyone who's married, no matter what stage in the marital life cycle that person is in.
An even more extreme one is, no one who is divorced with pre-adult children should date at all. They should wait until the kids are adults. That one is a tough one and most in our society would not be able to hack that.
It's honestly better to NOT date someone going through a divorce until that divorce is finalized. You saw the results of what happens otherwise.
And her texting you means nothing other than she had a moment of weakness where she needed an emotional itch of hers scratched. I'm not saying she doesn't care about you, but it's pretty awful for her to reach out to you when you are trying to move on with your life.
As hard as it is, I think you need to cut ties, move on, and chalk this up to experience.
I'm no expert at divorce, so I may need some education. The OG stated he had been dating her for 11 months, while she was going through the divorce.
OG, you weren't the cause of the divorce action, were you? If not, how soon after she announced the divorce did you begin dating? Were the two of you talking before the divorce was filed?
Don't feel like the lone ranger, it happens all the time. Don't count on much until it's legal to start counting. If you believe her, move on, she ant ready yet.
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