Why don't more women have compassion on shy men (close, age, approach)
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I've been rejected many times by women. Not one time was it due to my shyness. They were either taken or wanted to be single. Hell, a true shy man wouldn't even attempt to talk to a woman period. I think most men who do this are either outgoing or introverted.
Funny story from a couple of months ago, not sure how much it has to do with this topic. This may better fit in a thread about women approaching men.
I was at Muscle Maker Grill, waiting for my weekly meals to be completed, on my phone and watching ESPN.
This young lady comes in, talks with one of the employees about their meal plans, orders one and then sits a few seats down from me at the counter, with one guy in between us. She doesn't speak to me, and I don't notice her, because I was on my phone. I just happened to overhear the conversation since it's a small environment.
Well, I ended up knowing her, as we matched on Tinder right before crossing paths, here. She brought it up when we eventually went on our first date, about how she thought she recognized me from Tinder. She went on to say that she went home and during a phone conversation with a friend, went on about how she saw this really hot guy at MMG and how he may have been one of her matches.
My response was, so....you thought I was really attractive, you don't say anything and then you go tell your friends about me? You obviously were interested, considering we're on a date now, yet you couldn't say anything?
She was pretty much speechless.
Now, I didn't realize it was her or I would've said something, but replace me with a shy guy. Women, you see a guy you're interested in and he's clearly shy and you aren't going to say anything? And then go home and talk to your friends about him?
Really?
Just thought I'd share that considering some of the recent posts.
There has been suggestions made to join activities, etc. and get to know people that way, but I'm somewhat of a homebody (although I occasionally go to a local bar). It's not a big deal, but I'm just saying that there are probably many men who just aren't that outgoing or who aren't comfortable talking to strangers but would still like to find love also. It is what it is.
Funny story from a couple of months ago, not sure how much it has to do with this topic. This may better fit in a thread about women approaching men.
I was at Muscle Maker Grill, waiting for my weekly meals to be completed, on my phone and watching ESPN.
This young lady comes in, talks with one of the employees about their meal plans, orders one and then sits a few seats down from me at the counter, with one guy in between us. She doesn't speak to me, and I don't notice her, because I was on my phone. I just happened to overhear the conversation since it's a small environment.
Well, I ended up knowing her, as we matched on Tinder right before crossing paths, here. She brought it up when we eventually went on our first date, about how she thought she recognized me from Tinder. She went on to say that she went home and during a phone conversation with a friend, went on about how she saw this really hot guy at MMG and how he may have been one of her matches.
My response was, so....you thought I was really attractive, you don't say anything and then you go tell your friends about me? You obviously were interested, considering we're on a date now, yet you couldn't say anything?
She was pretty much speechless.
Now, I didn't realize it was her or I would've said something, but replace me with a shy guy. Women, you see a guy you're interested in and he's clearly shy and you aren't going to say anything? And then go home and talk to your friends about him?
Really?
Just thought I'd share that considering some of the recent posts.
Funny story from a couple of months ago, not sure how much it has to do with this topic. This may better fit in a thread about women approaching men.
I was at Muscle Maker Grill, waiting for my weekly meals to be completed, on my phone and watching ESPN.
This young lady comes in, talks with one of the employees about their meal plans, orders one and then sits a few seats down from me at the counter, with one guy in between us. She doesn't speak to me, and I don't notice her, because I was on my phone. I just happened to overhear the conversation since it's a small environment.
Well, I ended up knowing her, as we matched on Tinder right before crossing paths, here. She brought it up when we eventually went on our first date, about how she thought she recognized me from Tinder. She went on to say that she went home and during a phone conversation with a friend, went on about how she saw this really hot guy at MMG and how he may have been one of her matches.
My response was, so....you thought I was really attractive, you don't say anything and then you go tell your friends about me? You obviously were interested, considering we're on a date now, yet you couldn't say anything?
She was pretty much speechless.
Now, I didn't realize it was her or I would've said something, but replace me with a shy guy. Women, you see a guy you're interested in and he's clearly shy and you aren't going to say anything? And then go home and talk to your friends about him?
Really?
Just thought I'd share that considering some of the recent posts.
Nope. I do not believe in approaching/pursuing/chasing men. If you had been attracted to her you would have approached her. But you obviously weren't really into her because she didn't catch your attention at the meal plan place and you only dated a few times after hooking up via Tinder.
Nope. I do not believe in approaching/pursuing/chasing men. If you had been attracted to her you would have approached her. But you obviously weren't really into her because she didn't catch your attention at the meal plan place and you only dated a few times after hooking up via Tinder.
1. I'm fairly certain I was attracted to her, considering I ended up dating her longer than anyone in quite sometime.
2. No one would've caught my attention. Like I said, I only overheard the conversation because of the setting and was aware that she was a woman based on her voice, but I never looked up to see what she looked like. I would've never known it was her until she said something later on. My ears don't prick up, and I don't start salivating like a dog anytime I hear or see a woman in public with a pulse.
Nice deflection, though. She's the one that noticed me
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Originally Posted by calipoppy
Nope. I do not believe in approaching/pursuing/chasing men. If you had been attracted to her you would have approached her. But you obviously weren't really into her because she didn't catch your attention at the meal plan place and you only dated a few times after hooking up via Tinder.
If you think dudes are going to randomly walk up to a random stranger just because she's cuter than average, you have another thing coming. Cute women are a dime a dozen, I'm not, and I don't know any decent, non skeezy dude that is just going to try to hit on them because they have nice hair or a nice figure or something. That's some low class stuff right there.
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