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Sometimes the person you love does things and the relationship is toxic so you have to leave. Maybe they do bad things and you become too hurt by them to feel that sort of love for them anymore, and you work on healing and moving on so eventually you come to love someone else. For instance, the first person you are married to becomes abusive, they lash out at you, become angry, yell at you, become irrational, treat you shabbily, and if it happens over a year or 2 constantly and you do everything to work on it but that person refuses to work on it or do better, over time it's easy to fall out of love with them. It's not difficult to slowly over time cease to feel love, to feel those good, warm feelings for someone who becomes so selfish and hateful toward you, only showing anger and maybe shades of violence. When you are constantly walking on eggshells around this person, then the thought of their touch gives you bad feelings... I've had this happen so it eventually becomes easy to feel no love when you are with them, and to find someone else.
I want to say, I'm not saying people should stay in those relationships. Don't leave and say "I stopped "loving" him/her", It wasn't loss of love. It was being annoyed life throw a curveball.
No, sometimes it definitely is a loss of love. And that can be for one reason that's exceedingly major or for a lot of reasons and complex. You're attempting to shove everything into me neat box, but mature people know life is rarely that cut and dried.
No, sometimes it definitely is a loss of love. And that can be for one reason that's exceedingly major or for a lot of reasons and complex. You're attempting to shove everything into me neat box, but mature people know life is rarely that cut and dried.
You can't just lose love, though. Love, at least how I think of it, isn't fleeting. It's not being hungry and then ten minutes later you're not.
You can't just lose love, though. Love, at least how I think of it, isn't fleeting. It's not being hungry and then ten minutes later you're not.
Its simple, youre not over your ex. Give it some time.
Btw: I was married (divorced now) and was amazingly in love with my ex wife, but that love slowly died the day she betrayed me. Did i still care about her afterwards? yes i did, but that love is gone and in the past.
People change, you are not always the person at 50 that you were at 30 and yes, you CAN become "unloveable" to someone who once loved you. To say otherwise indicates you have no life experience at all.
I want to say, I'm not saying people should stay in those relationships. Don't leave and say "I stopped "loving" him/her", It wasn't loss of love. It was being annoyed life throw a curveball.
If your partner abuses or betrays you/your relationship, and your feelings of love begin to feel misplaced as a result and fade, that's not being annoyed at life's curveballs, it's no longer harboring feelings of love. Surely you're not advocating that people being harmed by their partners just suck it up and quit co M planing about "curveballs," right?
If your partner abuses or betrays you/your relationship, and your feelings of love begin to feel misplaced as a result and fade, that's not being annoyed at life's curveballs, it's no longer harboring feelings of love. Surely you're not advocating that people being harmed by their partners just suck it up and quit co M planing about "curveballs," right?
I said I don't they should stay. I do know abused people who still love their spouses.
People change, you are not always the person at 50 that you were at 30 and yes, you CAN become "unloveable" to someone who once loved you. To say otherwise indicates you have no life experience at all.
You can't just lose love, though. Love, at least how I think of it, isn't fleeting. It's not being hungry and then ten minutes later you're not.
Correct. Generally, you don't "just" lose love. Which is exactly what I said and indeed tried to stress...it is, usually, a complex rather than one-dimensional issue.
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