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Lets say you meet a great person, you like just about everything about them, then they tell you something you can't live with, what would be the deal breaker for you.
I have a long list, I'm sure no one is shocked at that.
1. He doesn't like cats.
2. He doesn't like children.
3. He wants me to move somewhere cold.
4. He tells me he cheated on his previous partner.
5. He tells me he has a drug problem/drinking problem.
6. He tells me he has a criminal history.
7. He tells me he is bi or has been with men.
8. He tells me he wants to invite a third person into our bed.
You guys get the idea, tell us your deal breakers.
1. After the 3rd or 4th date, all of which have been apparently successful and fun, he says "So, you think you could set me up with ***?" [my best friend] Umm, if he wanted to date her in the first place, why did he start with me? Why didn't he just ask her out himself in the first place?
2. He gets annoyed because he thinks I should pay him more attention than I do my kids - excuse me? They were here before you, and they are going to be here long after you are lost in the fog of history!
There have been other things that have come up later within the budding relationship, but were just as final as those two.
Okay. Here's the Number One deal breaker from my dating days. It is infallible.
Now, pay careful attention to how that person treats the waiter/waitress.
Why?
Because in six months, that's how that person will be treating you.
This is SO TRUE-I don't even wait to the 3rd or 4th date-people who are naturally nice are that way even if they are nervous on the first date.
This is SO TRUE-I don't even wait to the 3rd or 4th date-people who are naturally nice are that way even if they are nervous on the first date.
See, I would argue that you really need to wait until the 3rd or 4th date.
Why? Because first dates rarely reveal anything about that person. He/She might be nervous and find themselves saying stupid things (Haven't we all done that?). By the third or fourth date, however, they're comfortable in their own skin around you, and will give you the glimpse of who they really are.
Must be mongamous.
Must be single (as in not separated, not married)
No smoking
No drinking
No drugs
No workaholics
No TV addicts (especially television sports YIKES)
No gambling (or other active addictions)
If he's a recovering alcoholic or addict, must be working an active program of recovery (no cold turkey, no dry drunks)
Can express anger and upset in a safe manner
Must have full panel STD test with his name and the date on it
Must have his own source of financial support (I'm not going to support him)
some of the political "requirements"....I'm into it,you see me post alot in that section but come on just because someone might not totally agree on politics is a deal breaker?It's good to get involved....but to be militant about it drags you down.
Personally I kinda like the idea of a partner being a little opposite of me as long as she wasn't a member of some radical terrorist group or something.And it's one thing to disagree with interest yet keep it from becoming angry,that leads to a good romp.....
I had a girlfriend who loved Clinton,I despise him....we teased each other yet boy did we gel otherwise if you know what I mean....keep it in perspective
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