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I was looking for some advice about a situation that I seem to have gotten myself into.
I am a 20 year old female and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, he is 22.
Our relationship had been going well until around a year ago I heard some rumours about him that made me question if he was being honest with me. The rumours were that he went to another girls house and got Mod cut from her. He denied it, he even cried and swore on my life that nothing happened. In the end I forgave him but I don't think I ever fully trusted him again as when he wouldn't answer his phone or went on nights out I was always worried he was cheating on me. I never let him know I felt that way but that's what I always thought....
Yesterday I went over to his house. I asked to borrow his cell phone to make a call as mine had died. I took the phone out of the room whilst I was on it talking to my Mom. The whole time I was on it, I could feel it vibrating because someone/something was messaging him. After I got off the phone I took a look at who it was, it was notifications from Tinder and also a text message from a woman called Lacey saying ''hey, you haven't text me all day, whatsup?''.
It made me so unbelievably angry that I lost control of myself. I marched inside to confront him, showed him the phone and all he could do was cry and give me his pathetic apologies, which made me even more angry. I am not proud of my actions but I then spat at him........ I also broke his phone by launching it across the room, I don't know how but I also hit him in the face with his kitchen door....I then got my things and left.
He has been trying to contact me non stop. I'm still so hurt that he would do that to me and I don't understand why he couldn't just be honest with me and say like hey I don't want to be with you I want to dust dirty girls on tinder......
My heart is broken and the worst part is I still have feelings for him, I really want to hate him but I don't....
Could someone give me some advice please
Thank you
Last edited by PJSaturn; 04-11-2016 at 08:45 PM..
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I was looking for some advice about a situation that I seem to have gotten myself into.
I am a 20 year old female and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, he is 22.
Our relationship had been going well until around a year ago I heard some rumours about him that made me question if he was being honest with me. The rumours were that he went to another girls house and got [snip] from her. He denied it, he even cried and swore on my life that nothing happened. In the end I forgave him but I don't think I ever fully trusted him again as when he wouldn't answer his phone or went on nights out I was always worried he was cheating on me. I never let him know I felt that way but that's what I always thought....
Yesterday I went over to his house. I asked to borrow his cell phone to make a call as mine had died. I took the phone out of the room whilst I was on it talking to my Mom. The whole time I was on it, I could feel it vibrating because someone/something was messaging him. After I got off the phone I took a look at who it was, it was notifications from Tinder and also a text message from a woman called Lacey saying ''hey, you haven't text me all day, whatsup?''.
It made me so unbelievably angry that I lost control of myself. I marched inside to confront him, showed him the phone and all he could do was cry and give me his pathetic apologies, which made me even more angry. I am not proud of my actions but I then spat at him........ I also broke his phone by launching it across the room, I don't know how but I also hit him in the face with his kitchen door....I then got my things and left.
He has been trying to contact me non stop. I'm still so hurt that he would do that to me and I don't understand why he couldn't just be honest with me and say like hey I don't want to be with you I want to dust dirty girls on tinder......
My heart is broken and the worst part is I still have feelings for him, I really want to hate him but I don't....
Could someone give me some advice please
Thank you
you had me all the way until the kitchen door. You shouldn't physically harm people.
Violence is not the answer but .... I don't feel bad for him. He got what he deserved.
Now heal and then find somebody better. If it helps in any way - you guys were too young to be together forever. Go out and explore, have a few adventures and have fun.
You found out he's been cheating. His crying is his way of manipulating you to come back. It's an act. You guys need to break up permanently, for the good of both of you. Do not react to begging, crying, whatever. Make a clean break, and move on. Don't yell, spit, or engage physically. It would be best not to drag the break-up on with back-and-forth that would only prolong the drama.
Take time to process your emotions on your own time, get past it, and move on.
I think that you should replace the broken phone (or send him the money to replace it) and then never answer his calls again or let him hear the sound of your voice.
It generally takes a few weeks to get over someone after a sudden breakup like that, so it's normal for you to still have feelings for him right now. It will pass and you'll get over him and start feeling better sooner than you think. It's his loss, and you'll find another guy who will treat you right. Good luck!
I caught my ex sending text messages to his ex-girlfriend proclaiming his love for her; that they were soul mates and that he could never love another girl more than her. She was married with 2 kids at the time, him and i were engaged. He swore up and that his friend sent it as a joke. I wasn't buying it and wanted to call off the wedding so he sliced his wrists.
We are not together but later i would find out that he was messaging her and probably even having an affair.
You're young and you're allowed a few outbursts in your life. That being said, here comes the lecture, you shouldn't be doing stuff like that, spitting on people and hurling around their property.
I think you probably should think about moving on. You guys are young and apparently he's got a roving eye and most likely a roving P to go along with it. If you were my sister or daughter I'd tell ya to cut your losses and move on.
Rumors? Nasty people spread all kinds of rumors. Unless you've got clear evidence, you shouldn't listen to a word they say. You do realize some people are so evil they might want to cause a break up, just out of hatred for you or maybe to get your guy away from you.
Rumors? Nasty people spread all kinds of rumors. Unless you've got clear evidence, you shouldn't listen to a word they say. You do realize some people are so evil they might want to cause a break up, just out of hatred for you or maybe to get your guy away from you.
Clear evidence - like the text messages and the Tinder notifications? I take it you didn't read the whole OP...
Anyway - spitting, breaking things, violence - always bad. You aren't THE bad person but I would say that you came out squeaky clean either. There can be 2 bad people in a situation. That being said - never speak to that loser again. And maybe get yourself some therapy or some anger management courses so that you don't hurt someone again. You could wind up in jail.
you had me all the way until the kitchen door. You shouldn't physically harm people.
Violence is not the answer but .... I don't feel bad for him. He got what he deserved.
Now heal and then find somebody better. If it helps in any way - you guys were too young to be together forever. Go out and explore, have a few adventures and have fun.
LOL, so he got what he deserved, getting slammed in the face with a door for cheating.
So if Mrs. Chow cheats on me I can smack her around???
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