That's me. ^ The novel, below.
So, I am on my way out of a 19 year marriage. (Divorce is final/legal) I'd say the last half of the marriage was about 99% in legality only. Things happened, and things faded. We remain civil and friendly, as there really is no need for it not to be.
About 2 weeks ago, I decided to register on POF and see what it was all about. I reached out to someone that had an interesting profile, but an approximate hour was too much distance for her. Not sure if she was being honest or not, but I thought addressing it any further was a bad idea.
I learned some more of the workings of the site, read profiles, and tried to pick up some hints. Basically showering and having all your teeth is a plus. So I'm good there.
I was hoping my profile was not too long, somewhat entertaining and chuckle-worthy. I think it's ok.
I had one "reach out" from a woman who I was not attracted to, and was a bit distant from me anyway. I replied that I was still in the marital house (the truth) and was not really looking to be active at this point. (Half truth...lol) I do have a place lined up and will be out of the house at the end of the month. That's when I was going to let my hair hang down.
Later that day, I got another contact, from someone more local, and had some matching interests. Cute, and pleasant to look at in the pics. Wasn't sure she'd me my first choice of the profiles I would have reached out to, but definitely on the "list".
I got some messages throughout the day, the lunch break quick hello and such. It made for a good day. I like that stuff.
I mentioned that it was a hectic time of month for me, with moving, and the kids having activities, and that a first meeting/date might end up being a last minute thing, which was ok with her.
We did end up having an impromptu meet up, strolled her neighborhood and chatted for an hour or 2. It went well. I told her Friday would probably work for a first date, that I would keep her posted when I could figure out timing.
The next day, not so much messaging from her, so I get into my "overthinking mode", which I am trying to cure myself of, and think, "what did I do", "what did I say", or didn't say. But it was nothing.
We did end up meeting for dinner and drinks Friday at a Tiki Bar type place, chatted, laughed, had a good time.
I think that there is interest on her part. (She asked me for my phone number, a good sign)
I sure wouldn't mind pursuing a relationship, especially since not having one in my marriage for so long (for those who might think I am moving too quickly).
We discussed keeping in touch regarding future dates, but I'm thinking I want to hold off until I am in my new place, as it is awkward for me still living with the ex while trying to date.
I was trying to get a read on whether the first kiss was going to happen, if it is, but alas, it didn't. A hug was fine, though. (I'd really like it if she'd make "the move".)
I hope the knucklehead writing this doesn't do something to screw it up.
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