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I don't know. It's not a simple thing to diagnose.
That said, this wouldn't be a person I would want to date, whether she was or was not. The diagnosis is rather irrelevent.
i am not one to look down on drinkers, the tell tale is she hides a clear liquid in a water bottle.
If I drink publically where I should not, I still drink beer or wine but I just pour it out of the glass bottle and into a regular cup. That is not because I am hiding it persay, but attempting to be respectful of the no alcohol rule. Like at the pool.
Last time I went to great lengths to hide alcohol was in high school, which would be southern comfort in a Mountain Dew bottle. I just needed to graduate without being expelled. And alcohol made it a heck of a lot easier to sit through the drama of high school.
The red flag is that she is a grown adult going out of her way to hide the alcohol, which leads me to believe she knows that she has an issue.
So I am curious what your thoughts are and whether or not you would consider this an issue or not.
A girl I met online and I have been on three dates. On our third date we decided to go see a movie. While we were watching it about 10 minutes in she pulled out a water bottle and started drinking it, no big deal I thought. But then she asked me if I wanted a drink and that her water bottle actually had vodka in it.
Now previously she had got a long Island ice tea on our date prior which I thought nothing of and asked me if I liked to drink to which I said now and then, and that was that.
Well during the movie she ended up drinking the whole bottle, though she can obviously handle her liquor because after the movie even though you could definitely smell alcohol on her she really didn't seem to be very affected by it. I drove us there and her to her place so she wasn't driving.
Well actually get along well and I realize putting vodka in a bottle isn't new but I did think it was odd to do for a third date. Do you think it's a big deal? Or nothing to worry about unless she drinks on every other date?
This is something those that suffer from alcoholism would do. Mixing vodka with water, hiding liquor/beer cans in couch cushions/behind things, etc.
Before you dump her, why don't you talk to her and find out how much she drinks. If its within reason, and you want to keep dating her, fine. But if you find that she actually drinks more than she claims she does, then I'd suggest cutting it off. Lying about how much a person drinks is a clear sign of a problem.
One thing is for sure, she likes to drink, and likes to drink a lot. Long Island's are full of booze. And an entire water bottle of straight vodka? Wowza! I couldn't even handle that, and my go to is Scotch whiskey. Does she become a sloppy drunk? Belligerent?
One question you have to ask yourself is if that's something you want to put up with. I live with an alcoholic roommate, and sometimes he can be a bit much to deal with. He gets loud, obnoxious, starts breaking glasses because he can't hold onto them. That's annoying after awhile. If he were a woman, I would never be interested in that. Just some things to think about.
She definitely has signs that point that way, we can't be sure in those examples, but red flags are up.
I think it's the matter of fact way she went about it that triggers something in me.
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