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Now, look in the mirror and honestly tell us how much YOU changed in the last 24 years, and what YOU do to look hot and desirable. Maybe you two just need to sit down and have a conversation about it? Telling US doesn't change a thing...
Why is it always the man's fault? According to some of you women can't do no wrong.
Why is it always the man's fault? According to some of you women can't do no wrong.
She didn't say it's the OP's fault, nor that it's always the man's fault. She's just suggesting that he look at the whole picture and consider whether he has changed as well and, more importantly, that he discuss it with her.
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Welcome to that point in life when hormones begin to change.
Other than replacement, which carries significant risks, there is not much you can do about it.
Things are different.....the temperament, the enthusiasm, the love life and the overall ability to cope. My suggestion is that you, OP, change as well or you are in for many years of....well.....frustration.
Menopause takes a HUGE toll on women.....physically, and mentally as well. They are no longer a "woman" in their mind.....and it is VERY troubling. You and I might not give a hoot--we still love them like a precious treasure--but in their minds, they perceive themselves as being something less, and it is a torturous time in their lives.
The answer is that there is no answer. Try to be understanding and deal with it.
Yep. My wife had to have a full hysterectomy before age thirty, IE she went through menopause extremely early. It changed her. She gained weight, a LOT of weight.. Lost motivation. Let herself go. Quit dressing nicely. Quit being active. Became depressed. Lost passion, lost all interest in sex. Became moody. Withdrawn. Passive. Lazy. Quit caring how she looked. IE, she was in no way whatsoever the person I married. It got where I didn't recognize her anymore. I'd come home and wonder 'what happened? Who is this person?'
Welcome to that point in life when hormones begin to change.
Other than replacement, which carries significant risks, there is not much you can do about it.
Things are different.....the temperament, the enthusiasm, the love life and the overall ability to cope. My suggestion is that you, OP, change as well or you are in for many years of....well.....frustration.
Menopause takes a HUGE toll on women.....physically, and mentally as well. They are no longer a "woman" in their mind.....and it is VERY troubling. You and I might not give a hoot--we still love them like a precious treasure--but in their minds, they perceive themselves as being something less, and it is a torturous time in their lives.
The answer is that there is no answer. Try to be understanding and deal with it.
This is B.S. Menopause doesn't change the basic nature of a woman. A woman who is a pain in the ass after menopause was a pain in the ass before.
Yep. My wife had to have a full hysterectomy before age thirty, IE she went through menopause extremely early. It changed her. She gained weight, a LOT of weight.. Lost motivation. Let herself go. Quit dressing nicely. Quit being active. Became depressed. Lost passion, lost all interest in sex. Became moody. Withdrawn. Passive. Lazy. Quit caring how she looked. IE, she was in no way whatsoever the person I married. It got where I didn't recognize her anymore. I'd come home and wonder 'what happened? Who is this person?'
This is someone in need of a doctor's help. But sure, it can be an emotional shock to find yourself middle-aged before you turn 30, in the hormonal respect. At that age, a woman could feel that her life was just as it's barely begun.
Sorry, Ruth4Truth, the bolded is very, very WRONG. Menopause is different for every woman - as is peri-menopause. Please don't paint every woman with the same broad brush. Symptoms can vary widely, people vary widely, and what spouses do and don't know or notice varies widely as well - assumptions otherwise serve no purpose.
Perhaps you should direct this to Ted Bears post. I think all Ruth was saying is he should know if it were menopause. Being married to someone for that long I don't know how one wouldn't notice signs of menopause. I've dated guys less than a year that were more in tune to my cycle than I was.
This is someone in need of a doctor's help. But sure, it can be an emotional shock to find yourself middle-aged before you turn 30, in the hormonal respect. At that age, a woman could feel that her life was just as it's barely begun.
Yeah that was over ten yrs ago. I truly feel horrible for what she's been put through due to no fault of her own. It truly wrecked her. To the point that she became different person, inside and out, whom I would not have married. Menopause hit her really, really hard.
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