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Oh really? I thought that maybe I was having an emotional affair, back then, according to her, and so I dropped the friendship back then. I mean she was an ex-FWB before me and my gf started dating, so having the ex-FWB as a friend, inappropriate of me at all?
She didn't tell me about the cheating on her end, until now. She said that she didn't tell me before cause I wasn't prepared to handle such a thing back then, compared to now, almost three years later.
She said because of what I said to the ex-FWB, she was sure I was cheating, so that's why she did it, she said. But now she regrets it and apologized, and is really upset that she did.
Ditch the girl!!
Good grief! Gets some balls and tell her to get lost!!
There is no *slightly taken* when it comes to sex.
When one penis is inserted into one vagina it is *taken* no matter how brief the take was.
Your girlfriend got jealous over a few jokes and a telephone call so she immediately went and sought comfort from another man in person, not on the phone.
She found that comfort by having sex.
It is that simple.
So, why is it that your girlfriend can have a male friend and invite him to her birthday party but you cannot have a female friend that you only talked to on the phone?
It amazes me when one will drop a friend because a partner gets jealous over nothing.
PS ~~ Unless your girlfriend is your Mother (Father, guardian, etc) and you are 7 there is no *justified punishment*
IF you are a mature adult which appears to be questionable from the behavior by you and your girlfriend.
nailed it
she cheated and justified it after it happened...period
So, why did she wait three years to tell you? Something must have precipitated it. Surely not any guilt on her part, if it took three years to come out.
You were an ass and did something entirely inappropriate (when you were sane, apparently), and then she went off hurt and did something even more inappropriate. You both screwed up, and no you don't get off the hook by trying to diminish what you did. ("Well what she did was more wrong than what I did. First")
Just move on and be a bit more honest with yourself next time (despite the enablers here)
If you are serious about her, just tell her you would like to know these stuff earlier in the future. Don't chide her for this particular event even it hurts you. It was a mess with that incident and you should let it slide for anything related to that. Try to set the plate for whats coming in the future.
You were an ass and did something entirely inappropriate (when you were sane, apparently), and then she went off hurt and did something even more inappropriate. You both screwed up, and no you don't get off the hook by trying to diminish what you did. ("Well what she did was more wrong than what I did. First")
Just move on and be a bit more honest with yourself next time (despite the enablers here)
Okay thanks. So what do you think I should do about it then?
Why would she bring up something from three years ago. What was the point in that if everything was going good at the time. I'm thinking she must have gone all the way with this guy and ready to dump you or something.
Well it's sort of good that she brought it up, isn't she? I would want to move on without her telling me, and that I would have never known!
I wouldn't bring up something from three ago now, especially if things are going good in our relationship. Just don't seem like something most people would do for no reason at all. How was things going in your relationship at the time she brought this up?
IDK, OP. My take on this is that since you've been talking marriage with her, she wanted to confess and get it off her chest. Are you going through with marriage, btw? Are you two engaged? What about the pre-nup issue?
You two have had MAJOR ups and downs, fwiw. Yet you always manage to stay on track, somehow. I'm not sure that's a good thing, but ... whatever.
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