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I have been having troubl in my relationship and asked for advice on here, before. A lot of people on here are saying that I should break up and I have decided, I am going to take the advice and do it. Basically the problems were in these previous threads.
But everytime I try to break up, there is this emotional force, that stops, me that makes me feel like it is wrong, or that I am causing both of us, too much pain, since it feels like it is. This is second first break up and my first serious relationship, so I am new to this.
But does anyone have any advice on how to make it easier since it has been hard for some reason? Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate it.
I have been having troubl in my relationship and asked for advice on here, before. A lot of people on here are saying that I should break up and I have decided, I am going to take the advice and do it. Basically the problems were in these previous threads.
But everytime I try to break up, there is this emotional force, that stops, me that makes me feel like it is wrong, or that I am causing both of us, too much pain, since it feels like it is. This is second first break up and my first serious relationship, so I am new to this.
But does anyone have any advice on how to make it easier since it has been hard for some reason? Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate it.
It's going to hurt no matter what. When I've done it, I've always been matter of fact about it, and when the other person freaked out, I just didn't argue. You don't need to be right, ( you already know you're right, and nothing you say will matter) you just need to move on.
Toxic relationships have to go, whether it be a friend, or a girlfriend. The fact that you have posted more than once about different issues should confirm your own fact and feelings that this is not a relationship you should take forward. Relationships are hard enough when they're good, but when you have signs that raise a red flag, you better heed those signs. Many people don't, and think things will get better after they get married, and then they have even bigger problems. Why invest more time and energy in something you know in your heart isn't right.
Trust me, life moves on. I was cheated on after a 14 year relationship. I thought my life was over, I was devastated. Little did I realize, life was just beginning in a way I never knew possible. My life improved tremendously, his went down a crap hole, real, real fast and continued to spiral.
If there was an idol called Karma I'd build a shrine to it and thank it every day!!!
It's not easy unless you want to take the 'easy on you' way out and do it by text /email.
But you should do it in person, make it short and decisive and leave...no blaming or hashing over who did what.
Then, as said so many times on here, cut off all contact and her ability to contact you.
You might second guess it yourself for days after but don't let that change your mind.
Sooooo... you would rather take the constant pain of being in a bad relationship, rather than the one-time pain of breaking it off.
Makes zero sense to me.
This is your two weeks notice that I am breaking up with you. After our formal exit interview I will not be writing you a reference letter nor training my replacement. Per our original agreement, all copies of our written discussions of compensation/benefits, vacation time, background checks, credit reports and/or drug tests are sealed by force of law.
Or go to lunch or dinner and do this (have the staff bring out a cake and sing a catchy break up song):
What I like do when I'm breaking up with someone is a little less conventional, but I believe it mitigates some of the heartbreak.
So, I'll plan a nice evening, dinner at my house or something. I'll cook a good meal, bottle of wine. We'll chat, keep everything friendly. As she's leaving, I'll see her to the door and, as she's exiting I'll simply say "I don't want to see you anymore. Please don't contact me." Then I'll close the door and that will be that. 60% of the time it works every time.
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