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Agreed she's not keeping to the proverbial year that has been expressed. To be honoring the year is kind of silly IMO. She won't be keeping to the same calendar he is.
Have to pick when the pickings ripe. No more platter talk.
If she is crushing on him too (which I suspect she might be) he has nothing to worry about. She will want to move/negotiate the date on the calendar. Game on! Then he can tease her and play "hard to get" by telling her that sorry but he won't disrespect her by dating her until her year is up. If she is anything like me, she hates being told "No" by a man and she's not used to it either. She'll probably end up ripping the calendar off the wall (and ripping his clothes off) before the month is out.
I agree that one year is not set in stone. No one knows how long it will take to be able to move on to a new relationship. Probably for most people 6 months is plenty of time.
Ask her out already, before someone else does. And then you feel even worse. "She said she needed a year! Now she's seeing this guy? And they're cuddling and making out in my living room? And I never even asked her out!"
And maybe I'm wrong, but didn't she tell you she needed a year (or whatever the timeline was) a while back? That could have changed since then. And if she really does like you, you'll see how fast that changes.
You'll have no one to blame but yourself if that hypthetical scenario I talked about does play out and you never ask her out before it does happen.
On top of all this, she apparently thinks I'm attractive. That's hard to believe since I look NOTHING like her ex(almost opposite)! I think she was just being nice.
On top of all this, she apparently thinks I'm attractive. That's hard to believe since I look NOTHING like her ex(almost opposite)! I think she was just being nice.
People like different types of looks, you know. Besides, "attractive" includes non-physical features as well.
If this ^^^ is how you really feel, I'm also doubtful that this will go anywhere. I mean, if deep down inside you REALLY don't see how it could happen, it won't.
People like different types of looks, you know. Besides, "attractive" includes non-physical features as well.
If this ^^^ is how you really feel, I'm also doubtful that this will go anywhere. I mean, if deep down inside you REALLY don't see how it could happen, it won't.
I know. I dunno, maybe I'm just trying to talk myself out of it by trying to find negatives in it.
I know. I dunno, maybe I'm just trying to talk myself out of it by trying to find negatives in it.
If that's the case, focus on the negatives of a fling with your roommate (awkward living situations, fights, drama, losing a friend). Don't make YOURSELF the negative.
There's no need to sacrifice your self-worth to survive this situation.
If that's the case, focus on the negatives of a fling with your roommate (awkward living situations, fights, drama, losing a friend). Don't make YOURSELF the negative.
There's no need to sacrifice your self-worth to survive this situation.
I'm having a hard time following you honestly lol. So you're telling me now to forget about it?
I'm having a hard time following you honestly lol. So you're telling me now to forget about it?
No, I'm saying that if you want to focus on the negatives of the situation (and there are some negatives), then focus on the REAL negatives that I listed. Don't start tearing yourself down by saying you don't know why she's attracted to you, etc.
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Besides, "attractive" includes non-physical features as well.
