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Why are you aiming at 10's? Why not go for the women with the best personality who have their act together? Those would be all over the spectrum. I'm assuming you want someone you can get along with, right?
Physical attractiveness only opens the door. Once you get inside, everything else becomes just as important. In my case, it is an age thing. I am 60. So that means that I need to not even bother outside my age range. I see it at the gym a lot. Older men trying to chat up young girls. Its just rude and creepy. You would not like it if Mildred in the rest home rammed her walker into you and asked you for a date.
We all need to be honest with ourselves about exactly what league we are in.
Physical attractiveness only opens the door. Once you get inside, everything else becomes just as important. In my case, it is an age thing. I am 60. So that means that I need to not even bother outside my age range. I see it at the gym a lot. Older men trying to chat up young girls. Its just rude and creepy. You would not like it if Mildred in the rest home rammed her walker into you and asked you for a date.
We all need to be honest with ourselves about exactly what league we are in.
I see your point with the huge age differences, but I would say that it depends. I guess you can have a general idea about what league you're in, but there are a lot of men out there that I personally would never be interested in, yet I'm sure they can attract other women of similar or higher quality. So you shouldn't necessarily assume that a certain look or "type" of person is out of your league just based on one rejection. And just because you think that someone should be in your league doesn't mean that they'd actually ever consider you.
No I do not subscribe to the notion of "leagues" at all. I think it is a self-fulfilling thing where people convince themselves they can not get the people they want - so they do not try - and so they do not get them - and so their idea is confirmed.
The entire notion is predicated on the assumption that who you are attracted to is dictated by who is attracted to you. But ask yourself - if I transplanted your entire mind into other bodies - say a morbidly obese 30 year old man for all tomorrow - and a hollywood superstar stud all day for the day after - do you honestly believe that your attraction to the people you are attracted to _now_ would go away? Or that your lack of attraction to the people you are _not_ attracted to _now_ would go away?
No I see no reason to believe that myself. And the probability that a person _you_ rate as a "10" is attracted to you is likely identical to the person _you_ rate as a "3". And I say _you_ because this rating scheme is subjective nonsnese. What is a "10" for you may well be a "1" for me. Hollywood female stars for example. I know many men dream about them but I can not think of a single one that has done it for me.
Give me - for example - the Irish Singer Lisa Hannigan any day. She is my version of a "10" and most holywood lead role actresses of the last 20 years would barely manage a "5" on my scale. With the sole exception of Jennifer Lawrence who would certainly be pushing a little past 7.
I know my girlfriends - as I am the M in an MFF relationship - reach a level of consensus attractiveness among my male peers that they are genuinely baffled how someone like me "landed" people like them. It seems they hit 7-10 on the scale of all my male friends while I - someone who admits to looking like a 40 year old version of the Milky Bar Kid turned computer programmer - barely rate in the 2-4 area.
Why they ask me? Because - I tell them - I did not let myself be held back by nonsense artificial subjective constructs and I simply pursued the people who _I_ found attractive safe in the knowledge that the probability they were mutually attracted to me was the same as anyone else on the planet.
Physical attractiveness only opens the door. Once you get inside, everything else becomes just as important. In my case, it is an age thing. I am 60. So that means that I need to not even bother outside my age range. I see it at the gym a lot. Older men trying to chat up young girls. Its just rude and creepy. You would not like it if Mildred in the rest home rammed her walker into you and asked you for a date.
We all need to be honest with ourselves about exactly what league we are in.
This is a great and funny post!
I like the outside/inside thing. It would be a disappointment if upon driving up to a very nice looking house only to find the inside undesirable.
'Leagues" exist in one's own mind.
The way the term is used around here implies that some people are 'better' or more worthy than another for one reason or another, most generally based on looks.
Either you put them there yourself or allowed other's opinions to do so.
Someone is 'out of your league' if you already believe it to be so.
Compatibility is a different matter.
Leagues are as real as working class, middle class, and upper class in the United States.
Real to those who use that superficial crap for relationships. Funny thing is THEY are the ones with the most difficulties in dating.
You ever read here: "Things are going great! I found myself an 8 who thought she was only a six, I am a domineering 5 and we really CLICK!!"
No, you don't read that. Those types have a hard time figuring out what's important.
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