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03-02-2008, 10:06 AM
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What will you do if your best friend hate you for you're lesbian and interested in her?
What will you do if your best friend hate you for you're lesbian and interested her? Will you wait for her to accept you as friend? Or just let go of her ? In order to save our precious friendship, I've been disguised as guy via online to approach her and end up she caught me red handed and add me in her "enemy" list. What should I do?  |
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03-02-2008, 10:10 AM
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ichigo ichie 1 time 1 meeting unprecedented
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gay or straight the rules are the same.
no better way to destroy a relationship than deception
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03-02-2008, 10:53 AM
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It's getting hot in here!
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Leave her alone. No one likes to be lied to. No trust to start a relationship with.
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03-02-2008, 03:49 PM
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Atheism is not a religion
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Originally Posted by esdiary
What will you do if your best friend hate you for you're lesbian and interested her? Will you wait for her to accept you as friend? Or just let go of her ? In order to save our precious friendship, I've been disguised as guy via online to approach her and end up she caught me red handed and add me in her "enemy" list. What should I do? |
You totally screwed up. If I were her, I wouldn't be your friend anymore either. You were dishonest and hid behind a false identity in order to get close to her. If you were truly her "best friend" you wouldn't have done this.
Next time don't lie, be honest and be yourself. Hopefully you have learned from this mistake. |
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03-02-2008, 05:35 PM
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What should you do?
Leave her alone. Not much you can do to repair things now. Anyway, she has openly stated her attitude toward gay people (or just lesbians?) so why would you even want to waste your time with someone like that? Harassing her and trying to continue to communicate with her will not make her change her mind.
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03-02-2008, 07:21 PM
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Originally Posted by easternerDC
What should you do?
Leave her alone. Not much you can do to repair things now. Anyway, she has openly stated her attitude toward gay people (or just lesbians?) so why would you even want to waste your time with someone like that? Harassing her and trying to continue to communicate with her will not make her change her mind.
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I never wanted to reveal my love for her ever since the 1st time I had crush over her. Because I still appreciate our friendship and I'm pretty sure she can't accept the fact. I try to control and keep to myself all these while.
But she understand me too well that she manage to dig out from the action I've done. From there, she started to draw a line and stay away from me. I've no choice but to lie in order to save our friendship. I know this sound insane but I really lost that time. Guilt still with me right now |
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03-02-2008, 07:22 PM
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Originally Posted by RoaminRed
You totally screwed up. If I were her, I wouldn't be your friend anymore either. You were dishonest and hid behind a false identity in order to get close to her. If you were truly her "best friend" you wouldn't have done this.
Next time don't lie, be honest and be yourself. Hopefully you have learned from this mistake.
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Thanks for your advice RoaminRed. I just hope she can forgive for wut I've done. |
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03-02-2008, 07:22 PM
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Move on, or try to apologize.
Just because you have a crush doesn't mean it will be returned, especially since your friend is not interested in a lesbian relationship in the first place. So its not going to happen.
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03-02-2008, 07:29 PM
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Originally Posted by CuCullin
Move on, or try to apologize.
Just because you have a crush doesn't mean it will be returned, especially since your friend is not interested in a lesbian relationship in the first place. So its not going to happen.
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Dun misunderstand here. I never wanted to force her to be in a lesbian relationship but I juz hope we can still keep the normal friendship we used to be for the past. On my side I'll try to get over her.
Deep inside, I really miss her as a friend and even to the extend of sister to me. |
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03-02-2008, 07:32 PM
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Originally Posted by esdiary
Dun misunderstand here. I never wanted to force her to be in a lesbian relationship but I juz hope we can still keep the normal friendship we used to be for the past. On my side I'll try to get over her.
Deep inside, I really miss her as a friend and even to the extend of sister to me. |
I'd tell her that, unfortunately you've already crossed a major line, and lied to a friend. She may tell you too bad, she's not interested in being your friend anymore, something I would completely understand.
Good luck anyways |
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