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My 61 year old 1%er uncle has been married to three different women. The first was one of his high school teachers (yes, they were "fooling around" then and she was married at the time) and they were married from shortly after he got out of high school until his mid 30s. She helped him get his first professional job out of college, as well as seed capital for his business.
He divorced her and married a woman fifteen years younger than him - they were together around twenty years. They had two kids and divorced. He told the wife and kids he was leaving them on Christmas Eve. He was cheating on wife #2 with his dog's trainer.
He married the dog trainer the legal minimum to the day after the previous divorce was finalized. They were married about two years, divorced, remarried, divorced again this fall. He said he was completely done with her. Total divorce settlements were about $150,000 in cash, he paid off $80,000 in her student loans prior to the first divorce, and there has been endless drama. After the most recent divorce, he said he was done with her.
A few weeks ago, they "swapped dogs" after his dog was neutered and needed more daytime care than he could provide. Now they've gone yet another cruise and he says they're going to remarry again. This makes the third marriage to this one person. It is obvious she is just using him for money and trips.
Have you ever divorced and remarried the same person? What's your opinion on it?
My 61 year old 1%er uncle has been married to three different women. The first was one of his high school teachers (yes, they were "fooling around" then and she was married at the time) and they were married from shortly after he got out of high school until his mid 30s. She helped him get his first professional job out of college, as well as seed capital for his business.
He divorced her and married a woman fifteen years younger than him - they were together around twenty years. They had two kids and divorced. He told the wife and kids he was leaving them on Christmas Eve. He was cheating on wife #2 with his dog's trainer.
He married the dog trainer the legal minimum to the day after the previous divorce was finalized. They were married about two years, divorced, remarried, divorced again this fall. He said he was completely done with her. Total divorce settlements were about $150,000 in cash, he paid off $80,000 in her student loans prior to the first divorce, and there has been endless drama. After the most recent divorce, he said he was done with her.
A few weeks ago, they "swapped dogs" after his dog was neutered and needed more daytime care than he could provide. Now they've gone yet another cruise and he says they're going to remarry again. This makes the third marriage to this one person. It is obvious she is just using him for money and trips.
Have you ever divorced and remarried the same person? What's your opinion on it?
It should only be done if one's estranged partner has hit rock bottom, or other life changing epiphany, then gone on to rebuild themselves from scratch from the ground up. Even in this case there is a risk that the person may revert to their earlier level of dysfunction, but much less risk than someone who had not bottomed out thus. Same would also apply if one' self was the "changed" person.
I don't see the point but in very rare circumstances. The last thing I would ever have done was remarry the ex and m other of my children who left me, in part, because she already had another lined up. Why bother? We were both done for reasons. Neither ever wanted the other back. Besides, she made a 12 year career of alienating me from my children and that was almost unforgivable.
I can see how this is possible. My ex-wife and I are much closer after divorce. She's almost like a close relative to me. We don't interfere in our current relationships, but we still phone chats. We'll occasionally meet up for a lunch or drinks. These meets aren't romantic, but more like catching up with a close friend. We have no sexual attraction to each other anymore, but I could see how it would make sense to remarry for financial reasons and because the trust is there. It's been hard to forge the same level of transparency in new relationships in the same way that I have with my ex-wife.
I can see how this is possible. My ex-wife and I are much closer after divorce. She's almost like a close relative to me. We don't interfere in our current relationships, but we still phone chats. We'll occasionally meet up for a lunch or drinks. These meets aren't romantic, but more like catching up with a close friend. We have no sexual attraction to each other anymore, but I could see how it would make sense to remarry for financial reasons and because the trust is there. It's been hard to forge the same level of transparency in new relationships in the same way that I have with my ex-wife.
I know a highly intelligent and successful older man (my friend's close relative) who married to this woman for 30 years (smart enough to have the pre-nup the first time), divorced and remarried the same woman two more times. Last time no pre-nup, then separated when he's in his last stage of cancer. His kid took care of him for a year. He died when the divorce was still not final, and his estate was huge. It took years for his kids to see a small inheritance, and the wife got most of it.
I'd never remarry my ex under any circumstance.
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