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Old 04-08-2017, 05:09 PM
 
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Okay so I work in Austin Texas and I suppose it is a city that might be friendly to lesbians, (I don't know, I am straight).

I am a Christian woman, I am straight and I am eternally in love with the man I am going to marry.

My appearance, I wear dresses and skirts all the time, I literally do not own a pair of pants. I am very conservative, I don't wear earrings, or nail polish although my nails are long, and my hair which is graying very beautifully and prematurely is very tightly and naturally curly...previous to wearing my hair natural I had been wearing a wig...think Vivica Fox!!

My disdain here is that I am continually hit on by lesbians, I suppose I could not really say too much if they were to inquire and ask me if I am interested....that would give me the polite and direct opportunity to say no.

What is actually happening is that at work, on the bus (sometimes it is the driver herself) and recently in Walmart, I have been approached by women...and by approached I mean, they try to make eye contact, I think some have even tried looking at me with bedroom eyes, one has tried giving me gifts, and one at work continues to try to engage me in conversation, despite months of my ignoring her..........and she knows I am a Christian and she knows that I am straight.....and in a relationship......and in love with the man I am going to marry.

....when do women get the message that someone is not interested....

So the thing is if they were to be human and respectful enough to ask me....I could tell them no.

But they seem to just assume that their advances and attention is wanted so they continue trying to flirt, or whatever they are calling themselves doing.

My mistake, is that I am human as well and I have something called a personality, coupled with a sense of humor...and I treat everyone the same.

So by laughing and joking and saying silly thinks such as;

I will eat a million cookies if I want to....which is actually my way of making myself feel like I wont get fat for eating too many cookies....fatness and cookies a thing I thought all women understood universal....turns out to equal flirting to the lesbians I work with.

I dont flirt with women......because I am not sexually, romantically or even emotionally attracted to them.

I am sexually, romantically and emotionally attracted to men since I was four years old....literally the sight of Jim Kelly (Enter the Dragon) woke the sleeping giant inside of me.....and talking about cookies and fat is not how to flirt with a man....I would never do that....so yeah....joking and having a sense of humor with coworkers.....IS NOT FLIRTING.

Sooooooooo, how can I best make it unmistakably clear to a lesbian trying to hit on me (but has not had the basic human decency, or respect to actually ask me) but has presumed interest on my part....that I am not interested.

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Old 04-08-2017, 05:18 PM
 
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If it is at work tell them to stop and if they don't, file a complaint with HR. If outside of work, just tell them NO and go about your way.
Times are changing.
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Old 04-08-2017, 05:19 PM
 
Location: 🇬🇧 In jolly old London! 🇬🇧
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Okay so I work in Austin Texas and I suppose it is a city that might be friendly to lesbians, (I don't know, I am straight).

I am a Christian woman, I am straight and I am eternally in love with the man I am going to marry.

My appearance, I wear dresses and skirts all the time, I literally do not own a pair of pants. I am very conservative, I don't wear earrings, or nail polish although my nails are long, and my hair which is graying very beautifully and prematurely is very tightly and naturally curly...previous to wearing my hair natural I had been wearing a wig...think Vivica Fox!!

My disdain here is that I am continually hit on by lesbians, I suppose I could not really say too much if they were to inquire and ask me if I am interested....that would give me the polite and direct opportunity to say no.

What is actually happening is that at work, on the bus (sometimes it is the driver herself) and recently in Walmart, I have been approached by women...and by approached I mean, they try to make eye contact, I think some have even tried looking at me with bedroom eyes, one has tried giving me gifts, and one at work continues to try to engage me in conversation, despite months of my ignoring her.

....when do women get the message that someone is not interested....

So the thing is if they were to be human and respectful enough to ask me....I could tell them no.

But they seem to just assume that their advances and attention is wanted so they continue trying to flirt, or whatever they are calling themselves doing.

My mistake, is that I am human as well and I have something called a personality, coupled with a sense of humor...and I treat everyone the same.

So by laughing and joking and saying silly thinks such as;

I will eat a million cookies if I want to....which is actually my way of making myself feel like I wont get fat for eating too many cookies....fatness and cookies a thing I thought all women understood universal....turns out to equal flirting to the lesbians I work with.

I dont flirt with women......because I am not sexually, romantically or even emotionally attracted to them.

I am sexually, romantically and emotionally attracted to men since I was four years old....literally the sight of Jim Kelly (Enter the Dragon) woke the sleeping giant inside of me.....and talking about cookies and fat is not how to flirt with a man....I would never do that.

Sooooooooo, how can I best make it unmistakably clear to a lesbian trying to hit on me (but has not had the basic human decency, or respect to actually ask me) but has presumed interest on my part.
Love the post!

RE the bolded ..... The same way you would to a bloke that's tried it on/mistaken friendliness for interest etc by telling them straight " I'm NOT interested " and infact with another lady it should ( i presume ) be easier as an added " I'm not a lesbian " will pretty much end it
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Old 04-08-2017, 05:21 PM
 
Location: The point of no return, er, NorCal
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Tell them you're not interested. Simple as pie.
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Old 04-08-2017, 05:22 PM
 
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So, you're having an issue with all of these lesbian women approaching you, even the bus driver.

First off, I can guarantee you that every woman who glances at you or tries to talk to you doesn't want to get into your pants. Not all of them are lesbian or bisexual either.

So, as to your issue- just tell them you are straight, have a boyfriend and don't want to speak to them at all. It won't make you a lot of friends, but your issue should be taken care of.
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Old 04-08-2017, 05:26 PM
 
Location: The point of no return, er, NorCal
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So, you're having an issue with all of these lesbian women approaching you, even the bus driver.

First off, I can guarantee you that every woman who glances at you or tries to talk to you doesn't want to get into your pants. Not all of them are lesbian or bisexual either.

So, as to your issue- just tell them you are straight, have a boyfriend and don't want to speak to them at all. It won't make you a lot of friends, but your issue should be taken care of.
I know, right? Lol Seriously. Just because someone looks at you doesn't mean they're trying to sex you with their eyes. I think you're reading into these interactions a little too much, OP.

If you're actually being approached, not just glanced at, then simply explain your situation. It's really not that difficult.
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Old 04-08-2017, 05:26 PM
 
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I'm not getting why you think these women are lesbians and hitting on you.

IF they are, you deal with it the same way you would with a man hitting on you.

I've been asked out by lesbians a few times, and I just told them I'm into men.
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Old 04-08-2017, 05:28 PM
 
Location: Watervliet, NY
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Just deal with it the same as you would if it was a guy hitting on you.
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Old 04-08-2017, 05:38 PM
 
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The thing with men...once you let a normal man know you are not interested, whether verbal or none verbal...he will back off.
But then there are men, who seem to be kinda stalkerish, who refuse to take no for an answer.

Every woman has encountered a man who wouldn't take no for an answer.

Some lesbians put themselves into the second category, by their behavior.
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Old 04-08-2017, 05:39 PM
 
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I'm not getting why you think these women are lesbians and hitting on you.
IF they are, you deal with it the same way you would with a man hitting on you.
I've been asked out by lesbians a few times, and I just told them I'm into men.
Honestly I do not know any gay or lesbian who does not directly ask if whomever they have an interest in is gay or lesbian. I have always thanked the ladies for the compliment and gracefully declined their invitation. They have always said okay but if you change your mind let me know.


I'm not sure why this non issue is an issue but I wonde if there is more than one level of assumptions going on.
How does one tell if they were *almost* looked at with bedroom eyes? What are bedroom eyes exactly?
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