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Old 04-10-2017, 07:36 PM
 
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Online dating for a year and nothing ? Can't believe it. But even if so you shouldn't settle for any of these two. Maybe a fling if that's your thing, but actual relationship no.
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Old 04-10-2017, 07:55 PM
 
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And...What are you bringing to the table?

I tend to look at the entire level of resources both partners manage and contribute.

I've been the female version of guy #2. Ever grateful for the folks who rejected me.
Not bitter...Became wiser.
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Old 04-10-2017, 08:33 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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And...What are you bringing to the table?

I tend to look at the entire level of resources both partners manage and contribute.

I've been the female version of guy #2. Ever grateful for the folks who rejected me.
Not bitter...Became wiser.
good post. Much respect for people who grow when they acknowledge past issues.
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Old 04-10-2017, 08:38 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I've been online dating for over a year 😫
What are you doing to meet guys in real life?
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Old 04-10-2017, 08:40 PM
 
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Online dating for a year and nothing ? Can't believe it. But even if so you shouldn't settle for any of these two. Maybe a fling if that's your thing, but actual relationship no.
I don't really understand the fling concept. For every flingor, there is a flingee, and who's to say that the flingee will be ok with being tossed aside as "just a fling"? What if the flingee sees it as being dumped, not as "oh, we just had a fling"? What if the flingee is crushed? Or starts to stalk the person who initiated the fling?
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Old 04-10-2017, 08:45 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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I don't really understand the fling concept. For every flingor, there is a flingee, and who's to say that the flingee will be ok with being tossed aside as "just a fling"? What if the flingee sees it as being dumped, not as "oh, we just had a fling"? What if the flingee is crushed? Or starts to stalk the person who initiated the fling?
that's when open and upfront communication is required. I had a FWB that I was straight up brutally honest with. She understands where she stood and didn't allow herself to fall for me.
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Old 04-10-2017, 09:13 PM
 
Location: The point of no return, er, NorCal
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Guy #2 wouldn't even be a consideration for me. The excessive drinking alone would be incredibly off-putting. And guy #1 wouldn't do it for me, either, but he's not a hot mess like the other guy.
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Old 04-10-2017, 11:18 PM
 
Location: Orange County, CA
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Screw it, I say pick guy #2, the bad boy with alcoholism. He will be fun, the sex will be really hot, just don't get pregnant or fall for him. Act like a dude and don't fall, just bang. Then a couple months in leave him. Its a temp thing for fun only.
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Old 04-10-2017, 11:32 PM
 
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Screw it, I say pick guy #2, the bad boy with alcoholism. He will be fun, the sex will be really hot, just don't get pregnant or fall for him. Act like a dude and don't fall, just bang. Then a couple months in leave him. Its a temp thing for fun only.
Alcoholics have trouble getting it up when under the influence.
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Old 04-10-2017, 11:39 PM
 
Location: Orange County, CA
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Alcoholics have trouble getting it up when under the influence.
True, for the truly drunk. But buzzed or kinda drunk then the exact opposite happens, a man under the influence can last twice or even three times as long.
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