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Let's say you start dating a guy and all seems well. He's got a job, pays his bills, votes, knows how to change a tire, can cook (and makes awesome sangria!), etc etc, but one day he tells you he also has a feminine side that he enjoys expressing through cross-dressing. He assures you he's straight. Do you dump him on the spot, ask questions, stay with him? What would you ask him? What would you want to know in order to move on with the relationship or to at least keep it as a friendship? Would you dump a friend if you learned he was a cross-dresser?
I'm 28 and I've been dressing part-time for about 2 years now. It's always been something that's intrigued me. I like the idea of being somewhat gender fluid and creatively expressing my feminine side through crossdressing. It's harmed absolutely no one. It's allowed me to meet some really great people and actually made it easier for me to talk to girls. I'm straight and have no desire to alter my sex. I enjoy shopping for heels, shaving my legs and playing with makeup, but I also have other interests such as traveling, running, swimming, cooking, meeting new people, going out, playing craps, etc. Sometimes I'll go out to clubs/bars as a girl just because I feel it's important to not keep it in the closet and it's a good way to meet people--it's been an interesting conversation starter.
Is cross-dressing such a big turn off to women? I totally understand if it is. I'll be the first to admit it's unusual and many women prefer "manly men". Attraction is not a choice, but would you really distance yourself from a male friend that dressed?
I wouldn't drop a friend over that, no way. But I'm not sure I could be in a relationship with a cross dresser, even if I genuinely believed him to be straight (even some men who have sex changes to become women are still only sexually attracted to women). I would be concerned that in the future, he might decide that it's who he really is and want to permanently cross dress - or worse, that he might want a sex change. I'm not saying all cross dressers want a sex change, of course, but it's a possibility. And since I'm straight, I'm not interested in being with another woman (even if he's just dressing like one - I could never be attracted to him while he was dressed up like a woman).
No, I wouldn't drop someone as a friend for being true to himself. I think Eddie Izzard is an attractive guy, even when he dressed as a girl.
I have been married for almost 20 yrs and if my dh suddenly told me he was a cross dresser, it wouldn't ruin our marriage or make me think less of him.
I prefer genuine, honest people, and if that means they tell or show me something about themselves that is outside of my comfort zone, so be it. Sometimes my comfort zone gets a little cramped and needs expanding! I say keep being yourself, you might just meet the gal of your dreams when you are dressed as a girl.
Were I a woman I would drop you very quickly. You do have the right to explore your feminine side but you would have to do it someplace else. But have fun!
No, I wouldn't drop a friend over this. I think it would be fun to do "girl stuff." Romantically, though, I don't know if I could wrap my head around having a boyfriend and a girlfriend in the same person. Like you said, I like the manly man stuff. I've had relationships with women, but there was a different dynamic than my relationships with men. I couldn't really say how I'd react without experiencing it first-hand.
No, I wouldn't drop someone as a friend for being true to himself. I think Eddie Izzard is an attractive guy, even when he dressed as a girl.
I have been married for almost 20 yrs and if my dh suddenly told me he was a cross dresser, it wouldn't ruin our marriage or make me think less of him.
I prefer genuine, honest people, and if that means they tell or show me something about themselves that is outside of my comfort zone, so be it. Sometimes my comfort zone gets a little cramped and needs expanding! I say keep being yourself, you might just meet the gal of your dreams when you are dressed as a girl.
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