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Not really. I just go about my business in public, not bothering anyone. Most women act like I've done something bad to them, but how can that be when I don't even know them. When I come around, their body language just turns straight negative.
It's not that big a deal. I imagine the number at 22 that haven't had serious relationships is larger than you think. And who cares?
Now 40- maybe.
It's a huge deal. Family, acquaintances, and coworkers are all leaning towards thinking that I'm a homosexual. And no offense, but I don't feel like I deserve that label, since I'm attracted to the female gender only.
It's a huge deal. Family, acquaintances, and coworkers are all leaning towards thinking that I'm a homosexual. And no offense, but I don't feel like I deserve that label, since I'm attracted to the female gender only.
OK- well then, it shouldn't be a big deal. Now that I think about it I don't think I ever had a "girlfriend" before 22, and never thought anything of it. I dated though.
I would look more closely at how you carry yourself and the vibes you may be giving off. It's possible that you're giving off feminine/gay vibes in the way you walk, talk, dress, look, facial expressions, etc - causing women to be turned off as well as making your family, acquaintances, and coworkers think you're gay. Some men still look very young at 22 and therefore potentially less masculine. Just a shot in the dark, though.
Dude, just be yourself. I'm just kidding. It's a pretty useless cliche. From my experience:
1. Don't get desperate. Keep your pride. A girlfriend is not needed for a good life. Not every woman is good for a girlfriend. Don't flirt with everyone, don't flatter everyone, ask one woman out and focus on her while keeping the rest platonic. It will reduce overall creepiness.
2. No being mister uber-nice guy, don't go out of your way to help women on every step, don't be a white knight. I can't emphasize this enough. If you are too nice, you will get exploited by mean women and get nothing in return. You have to:
3. Enjoy your life and be content. Just come to terms with your living situation, okay, you don't have a girlfriend, so you will do every fun thing without one and can do it without one.
4. Socialize with friends. If you don't have any, get some. Friends tend to stick around longer and in general give more leeway to who you want to be. It will cheer you up, improve social skills as well broaden your horizon of people you would potentially date.
If you do this, you will be off greatly until inevitably you will go out with a woman and be successful, or maybe a relationship will just happen (you never know).
Not really. I just go about my business in public, not bothering anyone. Most women act like I've done something bad to them, but how can that be when I don't even know them. When I come around, their body language just turns straight negative.
This sounds awfully familiar, but I can't quite place it....
And btw, it's not that unusual to have not had a gf by 22. It may happen for you in the next few years, but first, you'd have to figure out what's turning women off to you, if, in fact, that is not a figment of your imagination.
What's your strategy to meet women? Do you make any effort? Join groups, co-ed sports teams, activities of any kind?
It's not that big a deal. I imagine the number at 22 that haven't had serious relationships is larger than you think. And who cares?
Now 40- maybe.
I can see that at 22 someone could not ever had a GF/BF, especially if you're an introverted and or shy person. It's not that old. I think if you've made it to 40 and never had a gf I can see someone sorta flagging it at least, doesn't have to be an automatic deal breaker, most certainly would like to hear the backstory on how it came about.
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