I'm scared as hell, but I think I'm gonna bring up "the talk" over the phone

[Buzhidao]

Originally Posted by cremebrulee

I believe it's common practice if you've gone out on a few dates then you ask if this is going anywhere...if he is interested in dating you exclusively or is he going to be seeing others. Then you make the decision.

If I were you, and I'm not, so, remember that, I wouldn't waste my time. Start seeing others...and be selective, start listening to his words, ask him questions, and if he pulls something like this, I would definitely, start seeing others. This person is playing games, b/c he can.

This particular piece of advice helped a lot... while some posters judging me for being clingy( for wanting exclusivity)... having sex too soon( which I'm not, he and I dated before. And I never had sex with anyone else after I broke things off with him last time)

So I think I'll just ask questions and make my decisions. I'm well-prepared to walk away... I'll be ok.

[303Guy]

Originally Posted by Buzhidao

This particular piece of advice helped a lot... while some posters judging me for being clingy( for wanting exclusivity)... having sex too soon( which I'm not, he and I dated before. And I never had sex with anyone else after I broke things off with him last time)

So I think I'll just ask questions and make my decisions. I'm well-prepared to walk away... I'll be ok.

[Inacitysomewhere]

Originally Posted by Ann Onn

Nope.

Never happened before I met current SO, didn't happen with him. If we split up, won't happen if I start dating again.

We're not all the same. And thankfully not all men are the same. If I lost anyone because I didn't give it up on the first or third or whatever date, then my standards are working.

I have lost men over not sleeping with them “soon enough.” To them I say good riddance! Like you, it means my standards weeded them out.

To the OP: good luck! You will be fine.