What does this mean? (guys, love, cheating, family)
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I always accuse him of cheating and than I blow up on him with a million texts and end up arguing with him even though he never said anything or did anything wrong (it's my own insecurities and flaws that cause me to react like this)... He always looks past this and would continue talking to me. Other guys would get scared off and avoid this. He however stays no matter how much i push his button. Why do you think he puts up with it and what do you make out of him?
I always accuse him of cheating and than I blow up on him with a million texts and end up arguing with him even though he never said anything or did anything wrong (it's my own insecurities and flaws that cause me to react like this)... He always looks past this and would continue talking to me. Other guys would get scared off and avoid this. He however stays no matter how much i push his button. Why do you think he puts up with it and what do you make out of him?
I always accuse him of cheating and than I blow up on him with a million texts and end up arguing with him even though he never said anything or did anything wrong (it's my own insecurities and flaws that cause me to react like this)... He always looks past this and would continue talking to me. Other guys would get scared off and avoid this. He however stays no matter how much i push his button. Why do you think he puts up with it and what do you make out of him?
Possibly because he understands you're insecure, and doesn't take it personally, and actually cares about you.
However, I would urge you to get help, before he loses patience and walks away. Do you really want to be treating a loved one that way? That's abuse. Get help.
Spend part of your Sunday looking up psychotherapists in your area today, and make some calls in the coming week. Look for ones who say on their website, that they handle family-of-origin issues, and trauma. It's a good bet that some serious incidents or chronic situations are part of your early past. For his sake, as well as for yours, commit to getting the help you need.
Possibly because he understands you're insecure, and doesn't take it personally.
However, I would urge you to get help, before he loses patience and walks away. Do you really want to be treating a loved one that way? That's abuse. Get help.
Spend part of your Sunday looking up psychotherapists in your area today, and make some calls in the coming week. Look for ones who say on their website, that they handle family-of-origin issues, and trauma. It's a good bet that some serious incidents or chronic situations are part of your early past. For his sake, as well as for yours, commit to getting the help you need.
Thank you, I think maybe there is some abandonment or unresolved issues
No I'm on my sister's account. I'm talking about a guy I have been seeking for about 2 months now
Only 2 months, and you've pulled all this cr@p? Maybe he's a glutton for punishment, then. Maybe he was raised with abuse, himself.
How could you possibly be accusing him of cheating, repeatedly (?!) if you've only known him 2 months? That's ridiculous. When did these accusations start? That's completely irrational. You seem to realize that. Are you not concerned, that you're routinely irrational, when in a relationship?
Thank you, I think maybe there is some abandonment or unresolved issues
Totally. It's great that you realize this. That's a huge first step, OP. Now consider apologizing to this poor guy, and set about getting some effective help. If he's a good guy, he may offer you support, as you get help exploring the roots of your issues, and start healing whatever those early wounds are.
I always accuse him of cheating and than I blow up on him with a million texts and end up arguing with him even though he never said anything or did anything wrong (it's my own insecurities and flaws that cause me to react like this)... He always looks past this and would continue talking to me. Other guys would get scared off and avoid this. He however stays no matter how much i push his button. Why do you think he puts up with it and what do you make out of him?
You have A LOT of growing up to do. Why are you spending time trying to figure him out. You need to invest that time and figure yourself out. This isn't about why does he put up with it? This is about why do you behave this way?
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Originally Posted by xforeverlove21
No I'm on my sister's account. I'm talking about a guy I have been seeking for about 2 months now
I wouldn't spend two days in a relationship with you, let alone 2 months. You seem unstable or you're really into drama. You sound really young. Maybe you should invest your time in yourself right now. You have to work on your insecurities before you can be in a relationship.
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Originally Posted by xforeverlove21
Thank you, I think maybe there is some abandonment or unresolved issues
Seek professional help. If you have insurance, speak to a therapist about your abandonment issues. Getting it all out may really help you deal with your issues. You're eventually going to push him away.
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I can't even!
