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Old 04-25-2018, 10:37 AM
 
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What? She said that was the reason.
lol. Its just you, being you, again.

We don't know that it was exactly, that he's not good-looking enough. It may be that he's just not her type. That could mean anything. He may be decent-looking, but just not her type. Or maybe there's something about his manner that comes across like a wet blanket. That can be an instant turn-off, no matter how good-looking someone is.

Look, JBT, you're the one who refuses to consider potential dating partners of average looks. But you're so eager to blame women, seeking out opportunities to blame women, for the same? To prop up your view, that your own situation is due to not being good-looking enough?

That is so messed up. Still, I wish you the best. I hope you're making some efforts to get out and meet people.
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Old 04-25-2018, 10:42 AM
 
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lol. Its just you, being you, again.

We don't know that it was exactly, that he's not good-looking enough. It may be that he's just not her type. That could mean anything. He may be decent-looking, but just not her type. Or maybe there's something about his manner that comes across like a wet blanket. That can be an instant turn-off, no matter how good-looking someone is.

Look, JBT, you're the one who refuses to consider potential dating partners of average looks. But you're so eager to blame women, seeking out opportunities to blame women, for the same? To prop up your view, that your own situation is due to not being good-looking enough?

That is so messed up. Still, I wish you the best. I hope you're making some efforts to get out and meet people.


I only refuse to consider dating women I’m not attracted to physically..that doesn’t mean they’re all hot..some maybe average to other people..I’m talking what I’m attracted to.

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Old 04-25-2018, 10:45 AM
 
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lol. Its just you, being you, again.

We don't know that it was exactly, that he's not good-looking enough. It may be that he's just not her type. That could mean anything. He may be decent-looking, but just not her type. Or maybe there's something about his manner that comes across like a wet blanket. That can be an instant turn-off, no matter how good-looking someone is.

Look, JBT, you're the one who refuses to consider potential dating partners of average looks. But you're so eager to blame women, seeking out opportunities to blame women, for the same? To prop up your view, that your own situation is due to not being good-looking enough?

That is so messed up. Still, I wish you the best. I hope you're making some efforts to get out and meet people.
True. I mean, looks matter to an extent. I assume that this guy wouldn’t want to exchange numbers and have coffee with me if he thought I was ugly. And when I mention “attractive”, I’m only referring to what I personally find attractive. It doesn’t mean that I only accept dates from beautiful men. I do have a physical type though and this guy is pretty much the opposite of what I’m into, so no, I could never think of him in a romantic sense. However, that doesn’t mean that he’s ugly. He has a daughter, so someone was obviously into him at some point.
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Old 04-25-2018, 10:47 AM
 
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She repped me it’s exactly why she’s not with him lol.

I only refuse to consider dating women I’m not attracted to physically..that doesn’t mean they’re all hot..some maybe average to other people..I’m talking what I’m attracted to.
No I didn’t rep you, so that must’ve been someone else.
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Old 04-25-2018, 10:51 AM
 
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lol. Its just you, being you, again.

We don't know that it was exactly, that he's not good-looking enough. It may be that he's just not her type. That could mean anything. He may be decent-looking, but just not her type. Or maybe there's something about his manner that comes across like a wet blanket. That can be an instant turn-off, no matter how good-looking someone is.

Look, JBT, you're the one who refuses to consider potential dating partners of average looks. But you're so eager to blame women, seeking out opportunities to blame women, for the same? To prop up your view, that your own situation is due to not being good-looking enough?

That is so messed up. Still, I wish you the best. I hope you're making some efforts to get out and meet people.
As far as meeting other people not really.

I still see my friend once in awhile..when we were hanging out she asked me to sleep over because her daughter wasn’t home and she doesn’t like sleeping alone.

I never asked her out..I just told people here that so they’d get of my back lol.
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Old 04-25-2018, 11:12 AM
 
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As far as meeting other people not really.

I still see my friend once in awhile..when we were hanging out she asked me to sleep over because her daughter wasn’t home and she doesn’t like sleeping alone.

I never asked her out..I just told people here that so they’d get of my back lol.


Speechlessness. I won't even comment.

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Old 04-25-2018, 11:14 AM
 
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Speechlessness. I won't even comment.

Ehh I don’t think it means anything it’s not like we hooked up..she had work the next day..

I asked if we could cuddle she said yes so I put my arms around her that’s about it.
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Old 04-25-2018, 11:17 AM
 
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OP - it sounds like you handled it just fine. There's nothing wrong with saying you're seeing someone.

You mentioned that he might start asking how it's going with the guy you're "dating". It's best to just be vague and say it's going - fine. Someone's personal life is really no one business, especially in the workplace.
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Old 04-25-2018, 11:26 AM
 
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Ehh I don’t think it means anything it’s not like we hooked up..she had work the next day..

I asked if we could cuddle she said yes so I put my arms around her that’s about it.
That's not why I was shocked. It's the way she uses you. Who does that?! She "doesn't like to sleep alone"?! What's she been doing the last couple of years, since her divorce? Sleeping alone! You're supposed to be her teddy bear?

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Old 04-25-2018, 11:33 AM
 
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That's not why I was shocked. It's the way she uses you. Who does that?! She "doesn't like to sleep alone"?! What's she been doing the last couple of years, since her divorce? Sleeping alone! You're supposed to be her teddy bear?

Her daughter sleeps in bed with her.

I don’t mind the affection tbh..I kinda crave it..not like I’m getting it from anyone else..

Maybe I could have gotten more who knows but I didn’t feel the need to try.
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