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Originally Posted by DennyCrane
Show me where I said their criteria isn’t valid to them.
You're dismissing their views by calling them silly (calling the view silly is trying to invalidate it by definition). Just accept it for what it is and move on. For some reason you're so hurt by this that you decide to make a post about it to denigrate their criteria because you don't agree with it. That's pretty messed up IMO. Toughen up. It's not a match, move on. The end.
You're dismissing their views by calling them silly (calling the view silly is trying to invalidate it by definition). Just accept it for what it is and move on. For some reason you're so hurt by this that you decide to make a post about it to denigrate their criteria because you don't agree with it. That's pretty messed up IMO. Toughen up. It's not a match, move on. The end.
And for some reason you chose to respond to my post instead of just skipping right by. And you’re using it as an opportunity to attack. But this isn’t the first time you’ve done that sort of thing. I sense I’ve hit a nerve. If so, take your own advice. Toughen up. Move on.
Oh and btw, saying that someone else’s criteria are silly to you doesn’t mean you’re invalidating them. I’m sure I have criteria that others would find silly. But if they said so, I wouldn’t accuse them of invalidating my criteria. Grow up.
Yes, calling someone else's viewpoint "silly" is trying to invalidate their viewpoint, by definition. It can be interpreted as nothing else.
And if you consider constructive feedback an "attack". Good luck.
By definition? Post it.
And please don’t pat yourself on the back by claiming you were just offering “constructive” feedback. I’ve seen the pattern with you. You can dress it up however you want.
If the bickering continues, this thread will be closed.
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I mean, I wouldn't date a hardcore vegan or vegetarian. I tended to prefer types that were familiar with IF, c/c cycling and Primal way of eating...like my husband. Eating and dietary habits can be a big part of one's lifestyle, so I can see why compatibility in that area is important.
I mean, I wouldn't date a hardcore vegan or vegetarian. I tended to prefer types that were familiar with IF, c/c cycling and Primal way of eating...like my husband. Eating and dietary habits can be a big part of one's lifestyle, so I can see why compatibility in that area is important.
I agree that it’s important to know if you’re incompatible with someone. But I also think that has to be based on a good understanding of the other persons lifestyle. These days, people are quick to make assumptions. I could meet a vegetarian and assume she’d never go to a steakhouse. But for all I know, she might be ok with it. Likewise, someone who’s not familiar with IF might assume it means I’m super strict and never willing to take a break from it. But most people who do IF allow themselves breaks specifically for social reasons.
I've actually never had this happen, though I had one date with a much older guy who criticized my meal because it wasn't vegetarian. (He was vegetarian but vegan, IIRC.) He made quite a few comments but didn't seem to think it was a deal-breaker.
I didn't go out with him again but it wasn't really because of that, and he wasn't backing off because of my omnivorous ways either.
In the world of dating, people have all kinds of dealbreakers. Diet is one of them. Maybe you’re a strict vegetarian and can’t see yourself with someone who eats meat. I was on a dating site recently. I started chatting with one woman, we had a had a lot in common and seemed to be hitting it off. Then somehow we got on the topic of health and I mentioned that I do intermittent fasting, which really isn’t a diet, but for the purposes of this post, I’ll treat it as one. She decided she was no longer interested in me. Her reason? I can’t see myself with someone who can’t sit down and eat meals with me due to such self imposed dietary restrictions. Oh and this was before she suggested that intermittent fasting was close to being an eating disorder. I can deal with rejection and I don’t always agree with the other person’s reasons. But this one just made me laugh and made glad things didn’t work out.
Anybody else experience something like this?
A good reply might have been "Well, I can't see myself being with someone who does not have the self-discipline to fast occasionally. Enjoy your 600 lb life!"
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I can deal with rejection and I don’t always agree with the other person’s reasons. But this one just made me laugh and made glad things didn’t work out.
