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I am looking for a nice guy. Really nice. Kind. Sweet. I mean, syrupy sweet. Disgustingly nice. I simply can not be with a man who is not incredibly nice. Like all the time. No anger, no sarcasm, no snippy-ness, no moodiness, no resentment, no fighter, no bitterness, not easily set off, and I don't mean the kind who is good at holding it in or hiding it. Everyone says they are a nice person and easy-going, but that's hyperbole by now, I want a truly nice and easy-going man. I know they exist but I haven't known one in like a decade. (admittedly, I don't have a large sample size to draw from). So I'm wondering how many nice guys exist out there, especially after they get married? I am asking the ladies for information sake.
Are you looking for a robot or a human being?
Many people tell me how nice my husband is, but he's not syrupy sweet. He does experience emotions because he's human. He gets moody, angry, and sarcastic. Again, he's human, and he doesn't act out in inappropriate ways based on those emotions.
He's definitely nice and easy going the vast majority of the time. He's not easily set off. Often he's nicer than me if I'm being honest.
Part of being in a long term relationship is being able to accept the humanity of the other person. That includes both positive and negative feelings. FYI--we've been married almost 35 years now.
I am looking for a nice guy. Really nice. Kind. Sweet. I mean, syrupy sweet. Disgustingly nice. I simply can not be with a man who is not incredibly nice. Like all the time. No anger, no sarcasm, no snippy-ness, no moodiness, no resentment, no fighter, no bitterness, not easily set off, and I don't mean the kind who is good at holding it in or hiding it. Everyone says they are a nice person and easy-going, but that's hyperbole by now, I want a truly nice and easy-going man. I know they exist but I haven't known one in like a decade. (admittedly, I don't have a large sample size to draw from). So I'm wondering how many nice guys exist out there, especially after they get married? I am asking the ladies for information sake.
They exist. Temperament, personality, quirks, etc., are a definite factor. My husband is super mushy-gushy and incredibly affectionate, kind, compassionate, and sincere. Not Nice Guy nice, but a genuinely kind and loving soul, and very patient. He's not really sarcastic, but he can be witty and goofy. Very reserved, mild-mannered and doesn't anger easily, at all. He's always been this way. Physical touch and words of affirmation are his top love languages. Mine, too. He tells me he loves me several times a day. We have our own "I love you"/"I know" that we do and secret hand gesture that we use to say I love you. We do it with the kids as well.
According to MIL, he's always been mild-mannered, kind, easy-going, etc. That's just who he is. I got that vibe when I read his profile. He seemed like a total sweetheart and hopeful romantic.
My husband is probably the kindest, most generous, most compassionate person I've ever known. Also unflappable and easygoing.
But he's not syrupy, is funny and irreverent, and like anybody else, he isn't immune to being stressed, tired, irritable.
People are human, and having expectations that are unrealistic serves nobody well.
This.
Genuinely kind and compassionate people still experience an array of emotions. Mr. Meta isn't the type that gets angry. He's very chill. But yeah, frustration, stress and annoyance are a thing. Like it taking several calls and long wait times to get in touch with the right dentist for an emergency visit. We were both annoyed at the process. Even during those occasions, though, he's not OTT about it.
Actually, this is probably a great time to snap up one of those “nice guys” who finished last.
lol! True. Going by what a lot of guys say on this board, there should be hordes of lonely "nice guys", genuine nice guys, around. It's all the jerks, the "bad boys" who have been snapped up, according to prevailing theory in certain circles of the blogosphere.
Okay, this is what I'm talking about. Just now I jokingly commented to my SO that a new in-law thought I was the younger sister of my brother, when I'm actually the older one. Without missing a beat, his head buried in the fridge, my SO mutters under his breath (but so I could hear him, of course), "She needs to get her prescription updated..." I suppose some people would think that's horrible, but I laughed out loud and cursed him out.
Okay, this is what I'm talking about. Just now I jokingly commented to my SO that a new in-law thought I was the younger sister of my brother, when I'm actually the older one. Without missing a beat, his head buried in the fridge, my SO mutters under his breath (but so I could hear him, of course), "She needs to get her prescription updated..." I suppose some people would think that's horrible, but I laughed out loud and cursed him out.
That's fantastic! My husband once watched me take yet another brownie and then pointedly looked at my backside - hysterical!
(FTR, I'm fairly thin).
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I suppose some people would think that's horrible, but I laughed out loud and cursed him out. 
