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How clean is the house kept? Is the cat on grain free food ? Grain free food is awesome for many reasons but foremost it cuts out dander and shedding.
Please don't rehome the cat or lock in the basement. It's not kitties fault.
Also asking son to clean and step up care for cat is good upbringing.
1/2 tsp refined (non coconuty tasting) coconut oil given to a cat daily will cut back shedding/dander. Most cats love it and will come running when jar opens.
A simple Albuterol inhaler will help you a lot before the shots. Do shots last; compromise til then.
The house is kept reasonably clean but the cat sheds a lot . He’s a Maine coon. Not sure if the shedding is typical of the breeed.
He is on grain free food (Canidae brand)
Will try the coconut oil.
My prescription was for Symbicort (the $300 inhaler) and Albuterol and I was asked by the Dr to only use the Albuterol for emergencies and not regularly.
The boy will be bringing cat dander up and down from the basement. Is the boy to be kept in the basement as well? There's a lady in my office who says she can't sit anywhere near cat owners or she won't be able to breathe. So far she's breathing ok...I guess I won't tell her.
Not sure if you should plan on a wedding in a year. After this crisis is solved, you get an idea of how the next one will go, not in your favor. This is actually quite common in the single parents I know, child comes first, it's their responsibility to speak for them.
Email the drug company for coupons, if your insurance doesn't cover it, there are many that have coupons for great savings out there.
I have asthma and allergies as does my youngest. We have two cats. We have no carpet in our house and all bedding is washed weekly. Furniture is also vacuumed often, a few times a week.
Neither my son or I would choose to rehome the cats. They bring us greater joy than the little bit of health inconvenience. Inhalers are covered by health insurance.
The house is kept reasonably clean but the cat sheds a lot . He’s a Maine coon. Not sure if the shedding is typical of the breeed.
He is on grain free food (Canidae brand)
Will try the coconut oil.
My prescription was for Symbicort (the $300 inhaler) and Albuterol and I was asked by the Dr to only use the Albuterol for emergencies and not regularly.
I totally get it, I am on 3 different types of asthma inhalers just day to day, but I am lucky in that insurance covers about 70 percent of it. I know how awful it is to walk around with asthma symptoms being bad all the time.
I really think you only have two options here. The cat goes to the basement, and the son and his dad spend time down there with the cat playing video games or doing whatever they do. Or you end this relationships. It doesn't sound like getting rid of the cat is an option, and it kind of shouldn't be since this 9 year old loves the cat and would be incredibly upset ( not to mention probably hate you when you move in)
Symbicort and Albuterol are for the asthma but do basically nothing for allergies. Your doctor should get you Rx strength antihistamines, flonase, etc. Vacuum all the time, etc. Shots ABSOLUTELY work, but they take a long time; there are oral allergy drops that work more quickly but may not be covered by insurance.
Some cats are better than others when it comes to allergies, but a maine coon is one of the worst, in my experience.
I am actually of the belief that if one person wants/can have pets, and the other doesn't, for whatever reason, it is a deal breaker. I don't think you can just expect people to give up pets they love. And on the other side of things, I have asthma and you can't live your life in a constant asthma attack. So unfortunately this may mean you both have to move on. Also, if you make them give up the cat, for you, do you really think the son is going to enjoy having you around? It's hard enough to be a blended family. When I was dating, I had to actually never date men who had dogs that shed, for this same reason, they give me asthma attacks. But I would never ever ask a person to give up a pet, I am involved in animal rescue and couldn't do that. So it was an automatic no date right off the bat if they said they had a dog that sheds.
Also, would the cat be alone all the time if the cat lived in the basement? Because that isn't a nice life for a cat.
I totally get it, I am on 3 different types of asthma inhalers just day to day, but I am lucky in that insurance covers about 70 percent of it. I know how awful it is to walk around with asthma symptoms being bad all the time.
I really think you only have two options here. The cat goes to the basement, and the son and his dad spend time down there with the cat playing video games or doing whatever they do. Or you end this relationships. It doesn't sound like getting rid of the cat is an option, and it kind of shouldn't be since this 9 year old loves the cat and would be incredibly upset ( not to mention probably hate you when you move in)
This is pretty much the bottom line. And if the dad isn't being flexible then I don't see this relationship succeeding. I'm glad she asked before getting married and selling her home.
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