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This. OP, do your own research. Who knows what your mother's motives are, for saying what she did? Maybe she fears. you'll move in with her if there's a divorce, and she likes being an empty-nester. Maybe she would be embarrassed for her social circle to know that you got a divorce. There's no way to know what she's really thinking.
Be your own person, and decide on your own what you can and can't afford.
My take on life is that you find a partner to learn lessons of life. When those lessons have been learned at that level, then you need to find a teacher to take you to the next level. So, it might mean for manhy people that you need to separate and go find that next teacher/partner to continue your education. I am not talking about your mental education but your spiritual education.
By staying with the same partner after you have learned everything they have to teach you, you are essentially staying in the same school class over and over again, year after year. Who would want to do that?
Yes, it is scary to leave what you know. To strike out on your own, to learn self-confidence and resiliance, but this is what it is all about. Life is about change and change is always scary for us as it is stepping out of our comfort zone.
Perhaps it's my misperception but it seems that I've seen a numer of the OP's posts here and in general they are all centered upon her personal unhappiness with her life and family. The best suggestion I, or anyone can probably offer is simple: either change your choices, or yourself. Expecting others to change because you are unhappy suggests a degree of self-centeredness that could very well be a source of unhappiness all by itself.
I once heard a phrase that stayed with me: "Change your thinking; change your life." For this OP, it seems especially appropriate.
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