Is Infedility Not That Big a Deal Anymore? (wives, married, women)

[DennyCrane]

I was disappointed to hear about John Edwards having an affair, but really surprised me was the way others have reacted. It seems like a lot of people aren't surprised or that disappointed. I guess we hear about people cheating so much these days that it's no longer a big deal. I often wonder why people cheat and sometimes I think they do it because we as a culture don't seem to condemn it as harshly as we used to. I used to be friends with someone who cheated on his wife. When I found out, I couldn't be friends with him anymore cause it's hard to be friends with someone you can't respect. I also couldn't look at him without thinking how he deliberately hurt his wife. But my other friends thought I was being too hard on him. Some even said it's OK that he cheated. I was appalled, but it seems like people make light of infidelity.

[Hobokenkitchen]

You know what, I was really disappointed to hear about John Edwards too. Mainly because I really like him - thought he was a good candidate.

To me cheating is totally a big deal, but not something I would impeach a president over.

I think it's more the ability to lie that worries me about these situations. Those people who put their hand on their heart and deny it, only to be shown up as a liar.

[KentuckyBlueMoon]

its big deal to me. lol.

[mrstewart]

Oh yes, it is a big deal.But, I often wonder if we have become so numb to the constant barrage of sleazy news stories that we (the universal "we") have a more non chalant response to the stories.

[jamesandveybe]

Duh... infidelity opens the door to disease and strife, of course it's a big deal. If someone cannot be faithful, they cannot keep their word to someone else, either.

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by mrstewart

I often wonder if we have become so numb to the constant barrage of sleazy news stories that we (the universal "we") have a more non chalant response to the stories.

My point exactly. We hear it so much nowadays with elected officials and celebs that it no longer shocks us or if it does, it wears off pretty quickly.

[rcsteiner]

Originally Posted by DennyCrane

I was disappointed to hear about John Edwards having an affair, but really surprised me was the way others have reacted. It seems like a lot of people aren't surprised or that disappointed.

John Edwards isn't someone I know, and he doesn't impact my life significantly in any discernible way. Why should I care what he does?

Some of us don't hang on every word that comes out of the media.

[SanAntoQT]

Cheating is a big deal...if it pertains to me or my relationship. I'm not privy to what goes on behind others' closed doors. For all I know, the spouse being "cheated" on is fully aware of the goings-on, but when the media gets a whiff of it, it turns into a scandal! People would rather believe that one or the other spouse is a victim, than come to terms that some couples have open relationships. If he did, in fact, cheat on his wife, then it's up to her to deal with it any way she sees fit. Personally, I'd kick his ass out, burn his clothes, change the locks on the door and file for divorce, taking him for everything he's got...but, that's just me.

[miu]

Personally it's a big deal to me. If my man cheated on me, he'd be out of my life permanently. But what goes on with other couples is none of my business. About six years ago, I was propositioned by a married friend and I never told his Japanese wife about it. She had some medical problem that made having sex impossible for many years. And I felt that her medical condition to be personal and very private info, but her hubbie told all his friends about it. She didn't have a clue that we all knew from talking to him in person and his message board posts because her English was very limited. Anyway, some guys are just dogs that should be neutered starting with that guy.

So my feeling about the Clinton, McCain and now the Edwards affairs are that it's none of my concern. If they are good politicians and I agree with their policies, then I will still vote for them. It's up to their wives as to how they want to handle their personal lives.

We get crazy posts from guys like Beena's all of the time, and I know that he's serious too.

Originally Posted by Beena

Beauty is subjective for women. What one woman finds attractive in a man, another woman may not.

However, men in general agree on what is beautiful. If they did not, then strippers and playmates would go out of business. Anyone who says differently is lying to you.

And the guy who says he is happy with the woman 10 yrs older than him or 20 lbs heavier is kidding nobody. He'd dump her in a millisecond if Pamela Anderson asked him for a roll in the hay.

And also, politicians are like rock stars and actors, they are confident and very social creatures who get flirted with a lot. And when they give in to temptation, it doesn't surprise me. The average man (and woman) shouldn't normally find themselves in compromising situations, not unless they are fans of tv soap operas and romance novels. Some guys have their minds in the gutter too much and believe in that if they turn down an offer of sex from a new and different woman, they will always be down one on the score sheet of life. So far, I haven't yet met a woman that felt the same way about hookups with guys.

[lola8822]

It's a big deal.....IMO society has become desensitised to it as it seems to happen quite a bit. However, I think that most ppl are faithful and trustworthy and generally good. They just don't make the news bcs being good is not as exciting.