Married Guys: Ever Had Desire "to be with" Another Guy? (movies, girls)
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and there is a difference in this world between labels and behavior.
saying straight means nothing really,
so to be precise...
straight men do fantazise about sex with other men
not all straight men fantazise about sex with other men
heterosexual men never fantazise about sex with other men
(well real hetero men dont...)
I think your wife has a right to know you're having these feelings. Whether you act on them or not, your wife entered into a marriage with a man she thought was straight. Keeping the truth from her is fraud. She has every right to decide if she wants to remain married to someone who is, in fact, bi. It's not a decision you get to make for her by withholding the truth.
I think your wife has a right to know you're having these feelings. Whether you act on them or not, your wife entered into a marriage with a man she thought was straight. Keeping the truth from her is fraud. She has every right to decide if she wants to remain married to someone who is, in fact, bi. It's not a decision you get to make for her by withholding the truth.
I think you're overreacting. Simply having some thoughts doesn't make one anything. If he says he's straight, I don't see why that's difficult to believe.
I think you're overreacting. Simply having some thoughts doesn't make one anything. If he says he's straight, I don't see why that's difficult to believe.
I agree. Many, many people have fantasies and most of us don't really want those [sometimes unusual] fantasies to actually come true. It doesn't mean he doesn't love his wife. Me having fantasies doesn't mean I don't love my husband. I have absolutely NO desire to be with another man (or woman,) but I have an active imagination. I expect my hubby also fantasizes and I think that's totally normal. I don't really want to know if he's fantasizing about a woman (or man) other than me, but it sure doesn't bother me. I'm secure in his love for me.
I believe fantasizing is what spartyfan is talking about. Fantasies and nothing more. I think the way he worded his original post made many people think he meant more than just fantasizing (I believe he said he had 'entertained the thought' of having sex with a man.) That kind of sounds like he might actually do it. In subsequent posts, however, it seems he actually meant that he fantasizes about it. I personally see no reason why he needs to tell his wife. He says he has no plans to act on the fantasy.
For those who might wish to read about how normal fantasizing about unusual things really is, here's an enlightening article: Why We Fantasize: The Science of Sex . According to this, sparty is really really normal. And so am I . Sparty just has a little more chutzpah to actually admit what it is he fantasizes about.
I agree. Many, many people have fantasies and most of us don't really want those [sometimes unusual] fantasies to actually come true. It doesn't mean he doesn't love his wife. Me having fantasies doesn't mean I don't love my husband. I have absolutely NO desire to be with another man (or woman,) but I have an active imagination. I expect my hubby also fantasizes and I think that's totally normal. I don't really want to know if he's fantasizing about a woman (or man) other than me, but it sure doesn't bother me. I'm secure in his love for me.
I believe fantasizing is what spartyfan is talking about. Fantasies and nothing more. I think the way he worded his original post made many people think he meant more than just fantasizing (I believe he said he had 'entertained the thought' of having sex with a man.) That kind of sounds like he might actually do it. In subsequent posts, however, it seems he actually meant that he fantasizes about it. I personally see no reason why he needs to tell his wife. He says he has no plans to act on the fantasy.
For those who might wish to read about how normal fantasizing about unusual things really is, here's an enlightening article: Why We Fantasize: The Science of Sex . According to this, sparty is really really normal. And so am I . Sparty just has a little more chutzpah to actually admit what it is he fantasizes about.
You have totally captured the essence of my being. I found out quickly that I should have chosen my words more carefully.
I've met a few men in your shoes- married and/or single guys who have had gay fantasies. I think it's perfectly normal, and much more common than many people think.
It's obvious that you are happily married and that you want to stay true to your commitment with your wife. That is very admirable, and for that I have much respect for you. Quite frankly, it's irrelevent whether you are attracted to other men or to women. The important thing is that you don't step outside those boundaries and sleep with someone besides your wife- that's when it becomes a problem.
Fantasizing is just that- fantasizing. Attraction is not something that we can change or control. It just happens. Don't sweat it.
I'm happily married for 25 years, great wife, kids, job. But, I've always entertained the thought of a physical encounter with another guy. Anyone else? Or, am I just that odd?
Always would mean how long? Would this be a feeling that started when you were younger and before you were married, or has this feeling started since you've been married?
My guess would be that you may have homosexual tendencies that have been surpressed for many years. It may be time to look at the truth with who you are. I haven't ever met any heterosexual men who have entertained the thought of a physical encounter with another man. But I guess it's possible. I think it would be wise to look at this a little deeper, with someone who can better assist you rather than throw yourself out to the internet forum dogs!
I can tell ya one thing - it's extremely unlikely that any regular will let ya know! One day when you become addicted to C-D you'll probably regret posting this yourself.
It's not something guys go through unless they're gay or bi. Not a normal thing at all. I couldn't find myself attracted to a man if I were paid a billion dollars. Yeah, billion.
You ever heard the term "thou doth protest too much"?
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