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Thats because straight guys don't want to experiment with other men. That makes them either BI or Gay.
Blatant untruth. Sex and sexual/emotional orientation are two completely different things. They are of course related, but they don't go hand-in-hand.
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Which is fine, except for when you are married with kids and you devastate their lives.
He never expressed intentions to do anything.
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A the OP statements saying he is happily married, I think that might be stretching the story a little. If someone is happily married, they don't generally want to sleep with someone else, nevermind a member of the same sex.
Again, he didn't say anything about a desire to sleep with someone else. He asked a question about entertaining the thought of being with someone of the same sex, and if other married men had ever thought of this. Furthermore, you are casting aspersions on the status of his marriage, which you are not privy to.
Sorry in my opinion and the opinion of my gay friends, it wouldn't even occur to a guy who was really STRAIGHT to have sexual relations with another guy.
Your sexual orientation is about more then just what you DO, its about what you think.
If a man is happily married to a woman, then he doesn't think about being with someone else, nevermind another man.
Could it be that someone has been watching porn while being a bit too suggestable?
I'm happily married for 25 years, great wife, kids, job. But, I've always entertained the thought of a physical encounter with another guy. Anyone else? Or, am I just that odd?
Wow, has no one on this board EVER had a fantasy that goes beyond the norm? With that said, there's a big difference between having a fantasy, entertaining the thought, and actually wanting to do it (whether you actually do or not). Fantasies are just wild thoughts, entertaining the thought is an actual consideration of performing that fantasy, and wanting to do it is just waiting for the opportunity. OP, is your thought odd? No, just not part of the "norm" and doesn't require counseling unless it's interfering in your marrage. However, is there a specific person in real life you're considering doing this with? That would be a problem.
If straight women can entertain the thought about being with other women then I do not see why men cannot. The thing is that there is less of a stigma for women and they are more vocal about it. I am pretty sure its just as common for men as it is for women but because of the stigma it is hidden.
I think we all have temptations. This is one that I have resisted and not acted upon. I was just curious to see if others had been tempted.
My answer to your question is, no, I have never been tempted. Although I will not foist my personal views upon you, it may be helpful for you to do some introspection as to WHEN you first began to "entertain the thought of a physical encounter with another man".
If this has been on your mind for a number of years you may have gay or bi tendencies. However, if this popped into your head after being "happily married for 25 years", then something is going on in your relationship with your wife that you need to work out together. Good luck.
Sorry in my opinion and the opinion of my gay friends, it wouldn't even occur to a guy who was really STRAIGHT to have sexual relations with another guy.
Again, that is really just an unfounded opinion. The fact that you mention your gay friends doesn't lend it more credibility. Ask them (or other gay men) if they've ever considered being with a woman or been curious about it. I'm sure their answers would surprise you.
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Your sexual orientation is about more then just what you DO, its about what you think.
What you think is separate from what you do. What you consider from an abstract standpoint is not a basis upon which you act. If that was the case, everything sexual that we have thought of others would be a barometer for our sexual orientation. You are attempting to label this man, and that is wrong.
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If a man is happily married to a woman, then he doesn't think about being with someone else, nevermind another man.
This is quite idealistic of you. Makes me think you don't know much about marriage or relationships.
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Could it be that someone has been watching porn while being a bit too suggestable?
I don't understand this comment and whether or not it was directed at me.
If straight women can entertain the thought about being with other women then I do not see why men cannot. The thing is that there is less of a stigma for women and they are more vocal about it. I am pretty sure its just as common for men as it is for women but because of the stigma it is hidden.
Hey folks, this has been a passing, yet recurring, thought. I don't know why, it's just there. However, let me say I love the ladies, always attracted to them (and especially my wife). I'm not a sicko or anything like that. Believe me, my wife has no complaints with me. I'm a very decent looking, in shape, very masculine guy. The plumbing is as good as ever. And, I still turn heads. I've had guys come on to me. I've had the opportunity. I haven't and don't intend to act on the urge.
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