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From reading threads here, I get the impression that people think love should be easy. That if you meet someone else you like better you move on. After all you only go round inl life once. But other threads will say it's worth fighting for. Which takes a lot of effort to keep a relationship going. So, which is it? Should it come easy and when the relationship gets old like they all do, you just divorce and move on or is love worth the constant effort over years to keep alive?
I don't think love should be easy but I do think life is too short to be unhappy. Therefore if you are in a unhappy relationship then I say yes you need to move on.
Whether to sustain a relationship depends on a number of things. Ex.
- What was the original foundation of the relationship?
- Are both parties trying?
- What's the percentage good compared to bad?
- Are there kids involved?
- Is there abuse involved?
Love is easy for some, depends on the personalities. Some are not attracted to those with all their ducks in a row, they don't get smitten unless they meet someone with enough baggage to fill JFK, they don't feel the excitement unless their S.O. is bailing out of jail today, their power gets shut off, the house is filty and theres 5 people crashed on the living room floor. They complain about it but they wouldn't look twice at someone thats life is the same from day to day.
Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs. Being purged, a fire sparkling in lovers' eyes. Being vexed, a sea nourished with lovers' tears. What is it else? A madness most discreet, a choking gall and a preserving sweet.
I think love is worth the effort. It's hard to go through 50 or 60 years with the same person and not have some really tough times, but if you can overcome those, I think you may be better off for it. Of course certain things like abuse and serial infidelity may be better of just running away from.
My parents have been married for 43 years, my grandparents made it to 46 and 59 years before "til death did they part" and that's the attitude I have. When I fall in love it's so hard for me to let go. When a BF I'm in love with dumps me and I think the relationship is worth fighting for, I want to keep the love alive and they want to bail. It frustrates me that one little argument, or one quirk about the other person will result in a break up and they don't see the deeper qualities that could last a lifetime.
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