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I think dating is tough for a woman, but it goes beyond these superficial, trivial issues. I read somewhere that at heart, men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them. Never underestimate how difficult it is for us to let down our guard with someone new, even if we've been flirting on and off for a while. Safety is a huge issue, and an extremely important one!
Dating is easy for women. I've never known a woman in my life that has been single for longer than 4 months. At the same time, most guys I know have had at least one spell of singledom for years.
In the past women generally had to be more attractive in order to score the man that earned more. However, now with women also working I think women have shifted the requirement of men from income to attraction. So, these days I think men and women both seek the most attractive partners that they can get and income is not such a high criteria.
I think it is extremely easy for a woman to get a boyfriend because there is just so much supply to choose from and men generally don't have very high requirements because all many are looking for initially is just sex.... I think it's much harder for a woman to KEEP a guy for the long term and possibly marry him. Men generally are averse to making permanent commitments.
Yes dating is rough for the high quality relationship orientated women. Like somebody else said, men pretty much want sex and will say anything to have some sex. So weeding out the losers from the winners is pretty tough.
men have to have good enough stable enough income, good-look, all the "loyalty" "sense of humor" crap and everything else. I don't think it's unfair for men to ask a tiny bit in return from women in the form of physical appearance.
Beautifully worded.
Someone who got pi$$ed up above didn't read your whole post, it said that if you match all of the attributes that are required of you, then you can ask the same in return.
I saw the word "rough" and "women" in the thread name, so I jumped on it.
Is it rough for a woman to date? Don't know.
Now: have I dated rough women? If that includes heterosexual tomboys (oxymoron, maybe?), then that's actually rough on men...and I can't get away fast enough.
I don't know what kind of man would want a masculine woman...seriously.
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Originally Posted by robertpolyglot
Beautifully worded.
Someone who got pi$$ed up above didn't read your whole post, it said that if you match all of the attributes that are required of you, then you can ask the same in return.
I saw the word "rough" and "women" in the thread name, so I jumped on it.
Is it rough for a woman to date? Don't know.
Now: have I dated rough women? If that includes heterosexual tomboys (oxymoron, maybe?), then that's actually rough on men...and I can't get away fast enough.
It is harder for women on some levels. A man has more choices. He can ask a woman out or he can online date. A woman can ask a man out. But, men say they like be in charge and call the shots. Or, they feel they are put on the spot. Don't you think women feel put on the spot when a man she is not interested asks her out? Duh....! For that reason, a woman can only online date. I used to talk to men I was interested in, they didn't ask me out. So, to me it is about the man and what he wants. Very one-sided.
Then you get the men who choose to date women with children from previous marriages or relationships. They have enough baggage to fill an airport. It comes with the territory. But, she is worth it right? He wants to marry her? Instant family. Just add H20 and stir. We child-free women are out here. But instead of appreciating it, they ask us why we aren't married or have children. Like, if something is wrong with us. I tell them there is more to life than popping out babies you can't afford.
I met a man at a church function. He said his 13 year old stepson is a handful. I told him that was who he wanted to marry. He shrugged. He told me he walked down the stairs and watched his stepson leave with his uncle in his truck. Apparently, he called his uncle to come take him for the weekend. He didn't ask or tell anyone. Disrespectful, don't you think? But, it is worth it because his wife is so fine. Give me a break. People marry and have children young and want to try it again a 2nd or 3d time. But, I don't feel children are an asset in a relationship. More of a liability. Once, a man told me he only dates women with children. Because he is a father himself and it works out better that way. If that is what we as a society has come to, that is sad. Many men think all women have children. The more beautiful the woman, the more likely she is to be a mother. Says who?
Last edited by Texasturkey; 10-04-2008 at 07:26 PM..
The dating game is nuts. I try not to date unless some guy really catches my attention. But I'll take all the friends I can get.
The best "dates" to me are those that begin as a friendship. That way you have the options of keeping it there, or taking it a step further to see what happens. But friendships take time and most men don't want to wait that long. They either try to hurry you into something you aren't ready for, or they don't hurry you and find someone else.
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